u/No-Manners-8028

I (31F) bought my nephew “Eli” a toy drum set for his 2nd birthday today (17 May), and now my brother is angry with me.

For context, Eli is OBSESSED with music and noise. He constantly grabs spoons and bangs on pots and pans while screaming/singing Baby Shark at the top of his lungs. It’s adorable… and also slightly irritating after a while, but he was 1, so everyone just laughs and lets him do it.

Morning rolls over, and my Nieces “Maya, “Nina (fake names), my sister inlaw and my Nephew came downstairs so I bought gifts for all of them. Eli got the drum set because I genuinely thought he’d love it.

My mom bought him a toy car, and my brother and SIL bought him a toy gun set.

At first Eli looked hesitant opening my gift, but once I set it up and showed him how to use the drumsticks, he absolutely LOST HIS MIND with excitement. He immediately started banging on the drums and laughing. My SIL was taking tons of pictures because she thought it was cute.

My brother, however, was dead silent the entire time.

Eventually everyone packed the gifts up and went upstairs while I went back to studying. A little while later I suddenly heard screaming downstairs — specifically Eli yelling “Daddy no!”

Turns out my brother was trying to take the drum set away because Eli wouldn’t stop playing it and was making a huge racket.

Then my brother came downstairs angry at ME asking why I would buy that and saying I’m “encouraging this stupid phase.” He also brought up that when my nieces Maya and Nina were younger, I bought them LeapFrog educational toys instead of “annoying crap like this.”

That turned into a full argument because:

Eli genuinely loves music/noise already.

He’s 2 years old.

THEY bought him a toy gun set and my mom bought him a noisy toy car, so I don’t get why my gift is suddenly the issue.

I honestly wasn’t trying to make their lives harder. I just bought something based on what he actually enjoys.

AITA?