u/No-Pin7257

Hi all. I am a mother of two toddlers. Right now we stay away from any close family. We have now got a chance to move to a different city where our pay will be slightly lucrative. My only concern is my SIL. She is a volatile person, opposite of being thoughtful and kind and acts very entitled. Like she once asked my 3 year old to carry my purse and my son innocently did. She has been a bitch to me since the start and I would hate her being around on my kids birthdays, important occasions etc. I don’t want my kids to love her, get influenced by her ans be very close to her or prefer her over me as they grow up. Am I being too paranoid? Has anyone faced anything similar. I am contemplating not moving because of her to retain my peace of mind