Disclosing GHSV1
I’m looking for help with when and how to disclose. So backstory, I dated a shitty guy in my 20s, one of the many things he did was go down while he had a cold sore. He told me he got them but I was under the impression it was gone because it had been a few weeks, he assured me it was no longer contagious. I felt weird about it but I had lower self esteem back then and was constantly worried about his outbursts when he didn’t get his way so I let him do it and a few weeks later I had an outbreak on my ass. He kept telling me I could have always had it and there was no way of knowing who gave it to me. He was the only guy I had been with so I always knew it was him. He had also accused me of giving him chlamydia and gonorrhoea during the relationship but again I hadn’t ever been with anyone before him, it was clearly from the cheating I later found out about. I only ever had the one outbreak, 3 years ago, got it confirmed by a doctor that it’s what I had, but it never came back and I don’t take medication for it.
Anyways we broke up a while ago and I did a lot of work on myself and I’m ready to start dating again. I don’t really hook up, I don’t want to infect other people but also don’t want to catch anything else incurable. I want to date and eventually have sex. Im neurodivergent and not always clear on social cues and norms and I am not sure what point to disclose to a person, or how to even go about it. Any tips would be appreciated as I feel it would be good to be honest with people I am dating (I would hate to ever give them something without them knowing the risk, and I would also hate to tell them like a year in and have them get mad they never knew I was putting them at risk) anyways, let me know your thoughts for how early on to disclose, how to even go about it?