how do i bring up unfulfilled expectations?
So basically my bf(m21) and i(f20) have been going out for almost 3 years and our sexual life has been good. I was his first but he wasn’t mine in the beginning he’d bend over backwards to please me and get me off. In the beginning it was awkward but he was really eager to learn me inside and out. Once he got everything down it was like a switch flipped and he wanted to have sec every time we hung out. During this time i had changed birth controls and my libido had changed and I made it known. Eventually my body got used to the new medication i was prescribed and i started initiating more often. We went back to our normal routine and he went back to his enthusiastic self. During my time away in college i had to come off my birth control as per my doctors advice. This didn’t change anything about our sex life when i came back.
Which brings me to my current problem i’m not totally sure when it started but as of late whenever he comes over to my house he’ll have me suck him off and he’ll dirty talk to me about the things he wants to do to me but before he even gets to put a condom on he’ll jerk himself off and then we won’t do anything the rest of the night. Or we’ll cuddle for a while and right before he leaves he’ll start kissing me and get me going again right before he has to go and he’ll just keep repeating that he has to go soon. It’s honestly so confusing like i brought up the turning me on as he’s leaving and how that makes me feel frustrated but he’s still doing it. Honestly i think it’s weird and it made me cry because of how unfulfilled i felt. Like it’s so frustrating that he gets to get off and i just get edged for like an hour.
It’s not something that i’ve dealt with before in previous relationships but this is my longer relationship. I’m unsure how to proceed with this. Like i don’t want to make him feel bad about this but i do t think i can handle another situation that ends with me crying over not getting anything other than verbally being edged or just getting a half hearted fingering.