New scans coming next week + Cheating
First time posting here. Male 30s. After navigating my insurance and self advocation I finally had my WLE on my scalp earlier this year and SNLB. Large black mole first discovered late last year. Ended up with Stage 3A.
Had scans partitioned throughout the year, PET, MRI, and finally CT. Anyway surgery went well and I’m eligible for immunotherapy though my current Onc says the side effects are as likely as the full recurrence. So we are in a monitoring phase.
I have a good network of friends, and a therapist. I’m not currently in any cancer support groups.
However as scans approach and biopsies occur anxiety goes up. I had my most recent one last month, my fifth for an ornery looking neck lymph node, thankfully negative.
With all of that going on I was in a relationship and besides the surgery recovery I have thankfully never felt ill. Nor did I pressure my partner for direct support, I simply informed her when doctor’s appointments (scans, biopsies, follow ups) were occurring. Never asked her to go with me.
As much support as I have had, with more scans coming up I’m finding myself uniquely anger here.
I ended our relationship suddenly and recently as a lot of lying and ugly behavior came to a head from her end, including infidelity. Not sure to what extent but I know of one person and I doubt she was using protection.
Has anyone been cheated on while going through this? I find myself much more upset at this behavior than the fact that I have cancer. Again I have both professional and personal support but they do not get it as understanding as they try to be.
Thanks for being here everyone. I read in here often.