Is it normal to pay for everything if you're the one earning more?
Problem/Goal: Financial boundaries with gf
Context: I (29F) have a gf(28f) for 10 months. I have been in thinking if normal paba itong sitwasyon ko.I'm earning 110k/mo, she's earning around 28k/mo. Wala naman akong problema sometimes when ako gagastos kasi nga given the income gap. Ngayon kasi, it feels something is wrong sa setup namin, kahit sya ung nag-aaya na gumala, she is expecting me to pay. From fare, to food, to activities. No problem naman sakin if kunyari ako ung may gusto kumain sa ganito, so syempre libre ko. pero ung Dinala mo ako sa isang lugar tas ako gagastos. Like naququestion mark ung utak ko minsan, it just does not make sense to me, pero hindi ko din matanggihan dahil mahal ko sya.
Previous attempts address the problem: I asked her once if she expects me to pay for everything, she said no. but still does otherwise. so Im a bit confused. Whenever I insist naman na sya magbayad kasi sya naginvite, naooff sya na para daw bang hindi ko sya gf. and mas malaki sweldo ko daw kaya ako daw magbayad, pabiro nya to sinasabi, pero since hindi nya binabawi, feel ko totoo. for further context naman: kahit malaki sahod ko, nagsusupport ako ng pamilya, nagpapaaral ng kapatid, may sarili akong bahay na tinitirahan at minimaintain(sometimes nakikitira din sya dito ng walang contribution btw). while sya walang reponsibilidad. kaya mas nakakabili pa sya ng wants nya vs me, lahat ng pera ko may nakatoka na san pupunta.
Now im asking if its normal for me to pay for everything? just because I earn a lot more? and if ikaw ang nasa sitwasyon ko, what would you do?