Why are some people upset when a very masc gay man wants another very masc gay man?
I’ve seen some people say that if a very masculine gay man prefers another very masculine gay man, it’s “internalized homophobia.” How does that even make sense? I think many people don’t actually know the definition of internalized homophobia.
Why should a very masculine gay man be with a feminine gay man if that’s not his preference? Why is it considered okay for a feminine gay man to prefer a very masculine gay man, but suddenly a problem when a very masculine gay man prefers another masculine gay man?
I actually think that mindset can be more influenced by heteronormative thinking. It’s like saying masculine and masculine cannot go together because it doesn’t fit the typical “masculine and feminine” dynamic.
Masculine + feminine = acceptable, because it resembles the traditional masculine/feminine structure.
Masculine + masculine = questioned, even though attraction and preferences are personal.
I’m not even very masculine myself, but this way of thinking bothers me