Not sure how I to feel about my marriage anymore.. throwaway of course
So my wife works as a bank manager, and one of her customers is a restaurant. The manager came in and she asked him to give our kid a job. He says he would, and did. This was two months ago. Well after that they started talking more. It started about how he was doing,(son) to gossip how he is with friends, to just friendly talk, and being managers working with young people. All three of us are 50.She would come home and tell me. On her lunch, she walks the shopping center they are both located in.The first time I met him I got creepy vibes. Being a father of three girls I can pick up on that. I told her about it, and she said yeah he's a little much. You don't have anything to worry about. One night we were out and ran into him. He was drunk, and hit on her in front of me. That night I told her I wanted all the conversation to stop, but I'm fine if it's work. If you have to wait on him I get it. Well she argued at first just friends, she's never cheated, her ex cheated on her and she wouldn't wish that pain in anyone blah blah. The next day she comes home and says you were right. He asked me to go get a drink with him. She said she told him no she is happily married which I believe. We are connected by phones so we always know where the other is. Well this was on the fifth. Well she didn't run into him anymore that week. She was off for three days. Well last week he came in to make a deposit that Monday. She didn't wait on him. When he left he waved to her and said I'll see you around. Well Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. While walking he stopped her while she was walking on lunch. She said she exchanged pleasantries made it short and continued her walk. Well I told her I wanted it all to stop, because he isn't giving up. At first she was like it's no big deal. He can hit on me all he wants. I'm not going anywhere blah blah. I said just tell him no and don't talk to him at all. Walk past him. She said it isn't in her nature to be like that, and who cares if they say hi, good morning, how you been etc. I said it does to me we are married. Well she said you just need to get over it. Well about that time I started packing a bag. I said I can't do this if I know you are going to be talking to a guy that is trying to get in your pants. She said fine I'll cut off all communication. We'll she was off Friday. Went back this week, and now she isn't walking or anything. I asked her why she want walking. She tells me she can't say anything to him. It's not in her nature to be mean, and just cut someone out like that. If she walks she will talk to him, if he talks to her. I want to confront the guy but she is afraid for her job. I just can't figure out if nothing happened why can't you just not talk to him. Why even after all this if he talks to her, she has to talk back to him. I told her if nothing happened you're almost leading him on. As each day goes by I'm not feeling better about the situation.
About us married ten years. We've always been very happy, and close. Sex life is amazing, dates amazing raising my biological kids and now they are hers. Both second marriage, and both our marriages ended with our spouses leaving us for a work affair.
TL;DR
WHERE SHOULD WE GO FROM HERE? AM I BEING UNREASONABLE