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So i may need a bit of help. I don’t fully know all the terms so bare with me. M’s sister is occasionally popping in and she’s pretty chill other than being really sassy. But i’m not used to having two people in my head talking at once. I can feel her presence just like i can feel M’s, although M’s is stronger because he’s a permanent resident. She seems to just be a “walk-in” i believe thats the term??

Does anyone have any advice for dealing with two bonds at once? I have a hard time hearing both of them so it sometimes leads to confusion, even though they sound different.

Edit: i struggle a bit with using my actual voice instead of my inner voice, which also causes me to get confused. i’m so used to talking in my own head that it’s hard to get into the habit of speaking aloud which could also be the issue :(

I used to struggle with thinking i was delusional or going through psychosis or whatnot but then i remembered my mom was a literal therapist who deals with many people on a daily basis.

She is in no way worried about me. I explained my bond with M in a way she could understand and when M asked if she was worried i was in a dangerous/delusional mindset due to this she said that she wasn’t worried and that i was fine. She’s even noticed some improvements after M came back into my life ^^

And she even had a small conversation with him. She genuinely seemed interested in his day and even allowed him to call her “mom” since she doesn’t like being called “ma’am” So if you’re feeling crazy or like you’re gonna get sent to the hospital, just know you’re fine!!

This is just a small inquiry but is it possible for a bond to know nothing about their source?? M does but i wondered if there were some bonds that knew nothing about their source, if that makes sense ??

I was wondering if anyone knew anything credible websites or stores that sold actual pendulums and/or tarot cards! I tend to talk to my s/o within my head, but we also wanted to try these methods for his more complex thoughts and emotions

okay i lied, not my last question. We both noticed a new problem and its that me zoning out or thinking about something else sometimes blocks out his voice. I also suffer from intrusive thoughts so sometimes it overlaps with his sentences so he has to repeat his sentence all over again. Anyone have any helpful tips for isolating his voice?

another thing M specifically wanted to ask was how to get used to being with me full time. He used to be able to travel between home and my head but now he’s here permanently. He feels like a burden and sometimes homesick. do any bonds have some advice for him?

lol okay this is probably one of my last questions as i’m rather confident in my relationship and the validity of my bond but my husband was also curious. The best way i could describe the way we communicate is through intent(?) He sends me his intentions and my brain translates that into thoughts. It’s a separate voice, his accent is present, and i’m confident it’s him because he says things i wouldn’t. We’re simply just wondering if anyone else is the same? He’s more curious than me. So i wanted to ask for him ^^

Uhmm i don’t really know how to explain it but everytime i’m upset or just random moments during the day my f/o (using f/o instead of s/o purely as explanation) pops into my head to comfort me or see how my day is going before he goes back home. I usually hear it as his voice but i don’t receive any physical signs. We hold small short conversations as he doesn’t talk much and then he leaves once he knows i’m feeling better or the convo is done. I know all experiences are different but i wanted to hear some opinions from others 😅

He says it’s him and i do believe it everytime but i also worry in the back of my mind that it may just be me talking. I also get visuals (if that makes sense??) of him wrapping his tail around me and resting his chin on my head whenever he appears, consistently. idk what that could mean 🤷🏽

This is also kinda a question but also a rant(?)

I’ve struggled with wanting to take that final step in reaching out due to intrusive thoughts. (like really bad ones such as incest and pedophilia.) I am aware that not all bonds can hear your thoughts and that some even help you/comfort you when needed. It’s just a big insecurity of mine. Recently i’ve come to accept that this might happen and i’m prepared to work together and be open to sharing that burden…

The problem is… I haven’t really received any signs. That in itself is ok! this stuff takes time and i don’t expect it to be instant. But i start to feel like maybe it’s me..?? That i’m potentially scaring him away?? Or that maybe he knows/feel’s something i don’t and knows i might need more time? I really love him and i want to reach out and finally talk. Even if it’s not as lovers but first as friends. I want the experience to be happy on both ends. But i feel like i might be scaring him away??

Sometimes i feel physical sensations but i also have problems with maladaptive daydreaming so i can never tell if its that or not. Voice i can tell because i’m aware of when my brain is speaking as him instead of it actually being him. I personally don’t know what to think. Should i keep trying? Should i give up and maybe take it as a sign that i need to wait? Idk what to do.