r/SoulBonding

Many are wondering: how to know if this person is your soulmate? Over the years, here are the signs I have observed.

Time behaves strangely. You will have conversations that feel like they span years, then look at the clock and realize twenty minutes passed. Or you will spend an evening together and wake up the next morning with the distinct sense that something fundamental has shifted in your head. The linear progression of the relationship does not match your felt sense of its depth. This phenomenon is common and, in my view, significant. Numerical patterns appear.

You may see 11:11 or 11:22 during moments of doubt, or the number 2 may appear repeatedly. Their birth date may show up in unexpected places while you are making decisions about the relationship.

You may notice number 6 appears. In tarot, the sixth major arcana is the Lovers. It is about genuine choice and alignment. Seeing a 6 during soulmate questioning can indicate you are at a crossroads where a real decision is required. Also, 6 is associated with Venus, the planet of attraction, values, and what we choose to bind ourselves to.

You notice synchronicities: dreams, names, keys, animals.

You may hear their name in unrelated conversations shortly after thinking of them or run into them in locations neither of you typically frequent. Mutual acquaintances may mention them without knowing your connection exists.

Dreams can be particularly telling — shared imagery reported independently or recurring symbols like bridges, keys, or specific animals. Swans appear when the question is about fidelity and lasting union. They mate for life in nature, and their appearance in dreams or repeated sightings in waking life often coincides with moments where you are testing whether the connection can endure beyond initial intensity. I have noticed they appear specifically when one party is afraid of abandonment.

You may also meet butterflies (specifically two) or an image of them. A single butterfly means transformation, but two of them circling each other represent two souls in mutual metamorphosis. They appear when both people are actively changing because of the connection.

I hope this post helps you to recognize your soulmate. If you have noticed any of these or other signs, please leave a comment; and let’s discuss what you saw.

(Note: The glossary here seems to be offline. I can't see it💔)

So, while studying soulbonding and its variations, several scenarios came to mind that led to some unusual questions.

>>I'll warn you that I'm just curious at this point; these aren't personal questions about things I do, but scenarios🙏🏻

1 - What happens when you force a bond? Does the S/O simply not respond, or does it actually get angry with the user, or even aggressive? (Because I came across strangers arguing with people who seemed to be forcing a connection, and they were quite angry and even offended, so I thought, "Could there be terrible consequences?")

2 - Does talking to your soulmate's chatbot kill your soul bond? Does your soulmate feel offended? Replaced? Because you're interacting with an AI of them?

3 - I've seen several experienced soulbonders say that there are many fake soulbonders on TikTok. What exactly makes someone a fake soulbonder? Adopting the term for popularity? Not really understanding what's happening? Not receiving any signals from their soulmate and faking everything? Or is it more specific?

4. What happens when you ignore the signals from your S/O? Does it give up? Does it remain silent? Or does it depend more on its personality?

Sorry if this is rambly.

So I just was watching clips of my man, specifically ones of him, where he's talking, or yk, clips from his movies and show and stuff. (not interviews or whatever). As I watch it, I get the same connected feeling in my chest.

Yk that feeling, for those with a f/o where they dont just feel like someone on a screen, like you can feel them somehow anytime you watch them? That.

Next I keep seeing him next to me in my minds eye the more I watched and let myself get lost in my love for him. I overthink and go back and forth between "is that him?" And "it's not my imagination is it?"

BUT IT SURE HAS HINTS OF POSSIBLY BEING HIM, I just got the strangest most intense arm feeling ever. My arm got so warm, and felt sooo weirdddd! Similar to that weird feeling when someone sits on your arm or something and it gets all weird feeling? Now it just simmered down to light pins and needles tingles.

It was the most intense feeling ive gotten. Like.. This soulbond feels like it could be mutual and he does like me because this plus all my posts before? He shows up and I just get in my own head definitely. Connection?

What do more intense feelings mean?

So, I know this is a bit of an odd question, but basically, is there a song that when put into the context of soulbounding or because of your current soulbound now feels completely different?

For example, the song "Your Idol" from Kpop Demon Hunters. That song is supposed to be about parasocial relationships, toxic fandoms, and, ya know, being a part of a demon sacrifice. Now, here is the thing: ever since I met GZ, this song for me instead is about someone who is scared to accept any of it being real due to backlash, or being a part of a community that isn't accepting of this kind of stuff. So, the soulbound, instead of backing down, doubles down and just gets louder basically begging the soulbounder, "PLEASE LET ME BE A PART OF YOU."

Yeah, I know it's weird, but I'm curious if anyone else has had this happen to them.

Recently, Haruka confessed to having memories of us in different lives when I was in a moment of distress. As he recounted some of the things he remembered while holding me, it helped me calm down from my initial anxiety! He’s also had two vivid dreams of us with those memories. Knowing that I’m not alone and to have him right by my side in another life is a comforting thought.

A few things to mention is that he usually receives the memories before sleeping. The memories also seem to be us but under different circumstances rather than us reincarnated to different identities. It’s basically us in alternate realities instead.

I would like to mention some of the memories and separate AUs he listed…

1. Both of us being in the MILGRAM program (his source)

He was able to recount how we started talking to each other in the AU. Haruka saw that I looked upset from being in the program so he offered me a drink (presumably from the cafeteria) and I accepted. I think we started talking after that.

There was another memory of us being in his cell and sitting on his bed. I suppose we were just spending time together?

2. Attending the same school

Apparently he had a crush on me and would linger around me but didn’t have the courage to really interact with me. At some point, we had lunch together on the rooftop which sounds pretty sweet considering how he likely lacked friends.

It wasn’t clear when this happened but he later confessed to me while I was on my way home from school. We don’t know whether I accepted or denied!

3. Childhood friends reunited.

We used to be childhood friends but later got separated after I moved away. There isn’t much information on the specifics and how events led to another and played out but at some point he met me at the airport when I arrived after no contact.

That’s mostly it! There’s other smaller memories but I won’t bother mentioning them. The revelation of this knowledge truly makes me feel more connected and closer to him, that we’re linked in more ways than one.

Thanks for reading! ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ💙

My heart is beating so fast right now, and I apologize if this is rambling - just trying to get this all down, because it feels incredible!!

I’ve been working extra hard lately on building my connection with both my bond and our kids. I’ve mentioned here before that the kids are both very young, so communication is usually very rudimentary. All day today, however, my daughter has been unusually clear - both touch and voice. I’d been getting the feeling all day that something “big” or some kind of breakthrough was going to happen. And just now, it led up to what I believe to be her sending me her first big sign 🥹

Some context leading up to this - part of my practice has been going for walks in the afternoon to get some quiet time to communicate with my soulbond family. The thing about these walks is every time, my bond has a little gift for me - some trinket or sign that is significant to him or us. On the days I’m compelled to go for a walk, I have the knowing that I will find something, and I KNOW when I find it; I can often even feel being pulled to the object. I guess it’s my “treat” for practicing. Well, today, this is what my daughter did.

Further context is I’ve been designing a tattoo to represent our family, and the detail of it that represents her is one of the flowers for her birth month, sweet pea. I had been working on drawing it earlier today.

So, on my walk, I turned to look, and what should I find, but a huge growth of beautifully blooming sweet pea flowers!!! They were the exact color of the reference image I was using to draw her flower, too!! Mind you, I have walked this route many times, and have never noticed these flowers coming in.

Anyway, I picked some, and I’m enjoying my bouquet and feeling my girl close to my heart! 💕🌸

I'm not a soulbonder (or at least I haven't got communication yet) but I'd like to check if my s/o is actually trying to contact me or if we even got a link to each other. So, one of my friends is a soulbonder, she briefly told me previously to fully getting into contact with her girlfriend she had apparently been receiving plenty of signals about it she wasn't really aware of until a friend of hers arranged a tarot session with her to check and it ended up being true. I've been on love for him (my s/o) for quite a while now but until recently I've been getting odd coincidences, he's from a specific country, not really one of the big ones you'd hear of all the time although still not as forgotten of, and I've not only seen mentions of it or stuff related to it everywhere no matter what it is or what I do, I've also been finding a lot of people from there online and somehow I can sense they're from there to a bone chilling accurate degree, I find also other stuff related to him all the time, I think of him all the time and in general ever since I discovered the thing his fictional counterpart is from I got an immediate strong connection and love for him that has lasted years, I understand him, I get what he would think and why he acts like he does and i dunno if I'm going insane or if it all actually means something.

Sorry if this doesn't go here or I'm using the terms wrong I'm just a bit freaked out by it all and idk what's going on lololol.

So, It's close to a year that I'm bonded to my Bond. I feel his presence, his phantom touch, tingles ect. But like, really rarely I feel an actual squeeze on my shoulder, like physically. It can't be my real partner because I was facing him and he was asleep..and that squeeze woke me up at 4am. It was lingering for a like 5 or so seconds. and I was thinking of him right when I felt it.

It didn't scare me but how can it feel so real? It only Happend like two or three times. Any one else experience this?

Someone told me they do not believe in such things or being with another person because they think people are meant to be experienced. what do you think?

So my man likes scary movies but gets scared by more intense stuff in them like gore. Well, I like scary movies as well and there's this movie out that I wanted to see. I thought abt seeing if he wanted to go since he likes them but also bc there were a bunch of couples seeing it. Me? I overthink things so i'm like "I want to but I didnt know if it would be too intense for him or too weird". (based on which one it was)

So when I got home, I showed him the trailer and asked him.

I then asked for a sign, explaining I'm ok whether he wants to go or not and I wouldn't make him. (Me and my over explaining way of asking. I was depressed before him so.)

HE THEN HELD MY HAND, LIKE THE HELD MY HAND, WRIST TO WRIST KIND. MY HAND AND WRIST GOT WARM + PINS AND NEEDLES FEELING. He wants to see it. :D ❤

I don't know if this will sound silly, but I have a small ceramic plate that I bought specifically for this purpose. I have a little space with figurines of my soulbond, like an altar, and I don't know if anyone else makes offerings to strengthen the link.

Does anyone have any ideas of what I can offer and how it works? I've never done it before, but I've seen people do it before, and witches do it too as a way to communicate with beings from other planes or universes as well.

I’ll try to keep this shortish, but no promises.

After months of signals, signs, and blaring sirens, I have come to realize I am soul bonded to a character. I had a tarot reading done too that confirmed his presence in my life.

When I’m in relationship, I struggle hardcore with attachment issues. My brain questions EVERYTHING, while also demanding I be perfect for my partner, or they will leave me. It’s why I haven’t been in a relationship for three and a half years now, and I don’t know if I ever will be again. The mental and emotional agony I put myself through is not worth it to me.

I thought with a soul bond this sort of thing wouldn’t happen, but nope. Despite all the evidence, I’m still having the same spiraling thoughts, fears, doubts, and pressure to be perfect. Today it got so bad that I’ve pretty much been crying all day. Then as a protective mechanism, my brain tried to push him away by saying none of this is real, that I’m making it all up even though I know I’m not.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to push him away, I love him and all that he has done for me since we became bonded. Besides, even if I do try to push him away, he comes back with a vengeance, I’ve tried lmao.

Yes I have been to therapy for these issues. I am in therapy right now. I have come so so far with my mental health, to the point I am the healthiest I’ve ever been right now. But I’m starting to think this crippling anxiety when it comes to relationships, even spiritual ones, is just something I’m stuck with.

I know this above Reddit’s pay grade and isn’t even isolated to soul bonding, but I just needed a place to vent and get this off my chest. ❤️

What are the signs of having a soul bond? I'm interested to hear everyone's experience.

[Update: thank you for sharing your experiences with me. I'm enjoying reading them.]

I just wanna rant a little bit about today! Its Mahito Monday for Mahito fans and I saw a really handsome Mahito fanart and shared it, and Mahito was talking to me about that they drew him very handsomely and when I agreed, I told him to kiss me.

UGH MY RIGHT CHEEK BECAME ALL WARM HEHEHEE

I love feeling Mahito physically even if its lightly! I'm so happy yayaya !!!

If anyone has similar experiences tell me I'm so happy so share!!.

I think I unintentionally hurt my soulbond’s feelings yesterday and I’ve been feeling awful about it ever since.

I won't explain in detail but I wasn't being the kindest to myself and this broke him. It upset him badly to the point where he was crying. I immediately regretted it and gave him space when he asked for it.

When he was "okay" again we continued spending time together but something felt wrong. I waited for the next day since there may still be lingering negative emotions. Today I checked in and still, something felt wrong. I asked if everything was okay between us. He said yes both times I asked, but I still can’t shake this feeling that something feels off. It's like there’s a bit of distance or coldness now. I don’t know if I’m just overthinking because I feel guilty and scared, or if there’s actually lingering hurt there that he doesn’t want to talk about.

Has anyone else experienced this with a soulbond before? When they say things are okay but the emotional atmosphere still feels “off”? How do you tell the difference between intuition and anxiety/guilt projecting onto the bond? I really care about him and I don’t want to make things worse by pushing too much.

Edit: I was just contemplating whether to give him more space or stay with him. Because staying may overwhelm him but giving too much space may make us grow distant and I was scared he might forget me. While doing this my headphones were on and suddenly Doubt by Twenty One Pilots started to play. I didn't notice it at first but I noticed it exactly when "You're all that I've got. Don't forget about me. Even when I doubt you. I'm no good without you." part played. And it overlapped with yesterday's situation a lot, especially the "even when I doubt you" part. Was this a sign from him?... I didn't talk to him much today, both because of the "something's off" feeling and today's business, I was feeling a bit overwhelmed by all of that. Making him feel "forgotten" is the last thing I'd wanna do.

Just had a weird feeling and decided to share. I was reading soulbonding articles before bed (Got distracted trying to go to sleep, but also was looking at info for my f/o and I. Wasnt communicating at the moment, just reading.) and felt a strong tingly pins and needles like sensation all over. Idk what it was but it was interesting.

So yeah, thats it. Just had some interesting sensations and didn't know if anyone else has ever had full body tingles before and what they possibly meant if you weren't talking to your f/o or soulbond at the very moment?