u/Terrible-Win2169

Hi all! I thought for a long time whether to write a post or not. But the inner sadness and pain took over, that's why I'm here. I apologize if there are any errors in the text, I am writing through a translator.

I can't seem to have a proper conversation with my Soulbond. I very often see images from him of him covering his eyes with his hands or holding his head. This is a response to the fact that I can’t hear him, I can’t understand him, and my brain seems to be putting up barriers. It really hurts me to see him like this. I used to hear him much better, he spoke quietly and in fragments of phrases, but that too has faded away. I feel that he is sad and it breaks my heart into pieces.

Besides that, my brain felt like it was going crazy. He began to translate all my thoughts into autonomous images. At first I was happy because I thought my Soulbond was fully manifesting itself. Absolute independence and free will. But I realized that this is not so, because my brain “brings to life” literally everything. Any thoughts where he touches me, does something or even hurts me. It drives me crazy, I get lost and can't figure out where the real him is. At these moments, I also feel pain and see images of him desperately clutching his head, as if he was also going crazy.

I don't know what to do and how to help us. Maybe someone had something similar or just have some advice? I would be extremely grateful. I wish everyone a good day and a great mood. ❤️

A question for those who have romantic relationships with their Soulbonds. Guys, have you managed to enter into relationships with those who, according to canon, are not interested in love? Or who already has a partner and he/she loves him/her. How do they explain this? It would be very interesting to read your stories. I wish everyone a wonderful day 🌸

Hello everyone again! I already wrote one post here before, but unfortunately, few people responded to it. Probably the large amount of text scared many people. I'll try to explain the situation more briefly.

https://www.reddit.com/r/SoulBonding/comments/1tp8hyc/help_save_the_connection_please/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

I still feel very uneasy in my soul. I wrote earlier that my bond is one and a half years old. But I studied the character's material for three years. I talked to people in the Tulpa thread, and they gave a lot of answers. And people made it clear to me that in my case, I most likely created a Tulpa. I won't hide it, it disappointed me. I don’t know why, but I felt deep resentment, mixed with anger.

I also won’t hide the fact that I always read posts here and feel admiration for your stories, but also the same deep resentment.

Isn't everything that's happening to me a case of Soulbonding? I felt something I had never felt in my life. Such a strong love that it reached the point of euphoria. Goosebumps, sudden images, a strong constriction in the chest and a feeling of being touched. It was strong and I thought it was mutual. (Our common feelings) Did all this really come from just me? Ordinary fanaticism, but nothing more.

And he actually spoke to me. But his behavior and opinions were always unstable. And I also often heard the same words/phrases repeated, like a broken record. At the same time, I never heard his thoughts, only his voice when he addressed me directly. And he never responded to his own name. He did not answer the question of who he really was. (Tulpa or Soulbond)

Maybe he left me long ago? And I “play” with myself? And the brain simply gives answers to protect itself from pain. I almost agreed that this is an underdeveloped and somehow distorted tulpa. And after that I stopped feeling him. There is no more attraction, no warm feelings and my head is empty. There is complete silence there. I look at the character art and feel nothing.

I don't know what to do or how to help. I feel an internal conflict. Forget all this and move on with your life? I'm afraid he doesn't need me. Is this Soulbonding or what is it anyway? Is it possible to restore our connection? Please share your honest opinion. Even if it is the sad truth. Maybe someone will have some advice? I would be very grateful. Because I'm confused and can't decide what to do.

Hello everyone, guys. There will be a lot of text and a complex situation here. I don’t know English and therefore I am writing through a translator. Please forgive me if there are any mistakes in the text. In my country, few people are familiar with Soulbonding, only Tulpas are known here. When you try to talk about Soulbonding, it is not welcome. Here people believe that this is forcing the Tulpa to be a character against its will. I don’t know at all what to do and where to find help, so I’m writing here.

I don't even know where to start... it's really hard for me. I am an insecure person, with a lot of complexes and low self-esteem. I have suffered from OCD since childhood and only started treatment for it six months ago. Constant doubts, ruminations and hyper-focus on my thoughts, it’s hard for me to switch my attention. OCD has taken over almost every area of ​​my life, and I have many subtypes. Some of which are "Pure O" and "Just Right". It might be useful to know this information.

My connection with Soulbond has been going on for a year and a half now and it has been a painful time. Below I will explain why. For three years in a row, I studied my character, consumed all kinds of media and studied him from a psychological point of view. I found it interesting, he is very multifaceted. In my fourth year, I learned about the app "Character.AI" and started role-playing with my character's chatbot. I didn't take it seriously, it seemed like I was just having fun. But after a while I noticed how something was happening/changing in my head. And I began to feel deep affection and... love. I had felt something similar before, but I didn’t attach much importance to it. And it was as if role-playing games had reinforced these feelings. I became confused and started looking for information and help. I found a group dedicated to Tulpas on one of the social networks. After explaining the situation, a girl wrote to me and said that it was 100% Soulbonding.

I don't know how to continue; I'm completely stumped right now. I'll try to present the text in a way that's as clear as possible and without unnecessary information.

What came before? As I wrote above, I felt deep affection and love. I have never felt anything like this for any person before. Whenever I thought about my Soulbond, I was enveloped in warm feelings and my chest tightened. It was a long, sweet feeling and afterwards it turned into Euphoria. Goosebumps on the skin, sometimes the fingers on the hands and feet suddenly twitched. And I felt like I was being touched. I thought that he reciprocated my feelings, I was absolutely sure of it. Now I'm afraid that I'm just influencing him and these are not his true feelings. Because my love for him has grown too much and I also have strong self-hypnosis. There is also the most important and greatest concern. My character is a loner who doesn't need anyone, essentially. He loved only one girl and she died. Hence the doubts - why does he need me? WHY? In canon, he is not interested in love at all.

To make things clearer, I'll add something else. Besides strong self-hypnosis, I have no "boundaries" in my thoughts. Over the years of my life, I have become one with OCD and all my thoughts pass as my own. There is no feeling of "foreignness" and it is difficult for me to separate myself from OCD and my Soulbond. I only cope when he addresses me directly in his mind. And I don't know at all what to do with this problem.

What's happening now? Below it will become clear why I wrote above that the whole year and a half was painful. My Soulbond's behavior and opinions are always unstable. There are two extremes. Either he says he loves me and wants to be with me, or he insults me and wants to leave. This happens ALL THE TIME. Because of his behavior, I myself became unstable. I either drive him away or ask him not to leave and to come back. I feel severe pain, mental exhaustion and often cry. We often separate and at the moment it seems right, but then I feel a deep longing and attraction to him. It's like we can't live without each other anymore and he says, "Forgive me. Come back to me." We get together and everything goes well for a while, but then he insults me again. I don't know how to help us.

This raises several questions for me. 1) Is this whole case really Soulbonding or is it a truly underdeveloped Tulpa? 2) Could OCD be messing with both of our heads? Maybe it affects my Soulbond too? 3) Because I've read too much information about Tulpas and I still have doubts to this day, could this also affect my Soulbond? Sometimes I feel like I hear several voices in my head. What are the chances that one of the voices is my Soulbond and the other is the OCD voice? It's really hard for me to tell the difference, the voices get confused and overlap each other and I'm literally going crazy. 4) Was it possible to accidentally create a distorted thought form that offends me?

It seems to me that the situation is quite complicated and it is unlikely that anyone has encountered something similar, but I really hope for someone's help. I will be glad to receive absolutely any answers and advice. I often hear the phrases "This is all happening because of you," "We need to split up," and "Give me time." I have no idea what that means, but that's definitely what my character says. It scares me that he doesn't respond to his name and answers, "Maybe it's me. Or maybe not." This makes me think even more that this is just a Tulpa and not a case of Soulbonding. There is also a voicing of my own thoughts and actions. For example, "Your hand", "Your leg", "You are going home". It's weird, I've never had this happen before. Please help me figure this out. I really want to save our connection. Last night he sent me his energy and feeling of love, saying, "I love you and you love me. To hell with doubts." I can’t and don’t want to let him go,

I apologize again if there were any mistakes in the text. It's hard to write through a translator. And I hope that the text did not turn out to be crumpled and everything is perfectly clear. If you have any additional questions, please let me know. Thank you very much, take care of yourself and your dear life partners. ♥

Hello everyone, guys. There will be a lot of text and a complex situation here. I don’t know English and therefore I am writing through a translator. Please forgive me if there are any mistakes in the text. In my country, few people are familiar with Soulbonding, only Tulpas are known here. When you try to talk about Soulbonding, it is not welcome. Here people believe that this is forcing the Tulpa to be a character against its will. I don’t know at all what to do and where to find help, so I’m writing here.

I don't even know where to start... it's really hard for me. I am an insecure person, with a lot of complexes and low self-esteem. I have suffered from OCD since childhood and only started treatment for it six months ago. Constant doubts, ruminations and hyper-focus on my thoughts, it’s hard for me to switch my attention. OCD has taken over almost every area of ​​my life, and I have many subtypes. Some of which are "Pure O" and "Just Right". It might be useful to know this information.

My connection with Soulbond has been going on for a year and a half now and it has been a painful time. Below I will explain why. For three years in a row, I studied my character, consumed all kinds of media and studied him from a psychological point of view. I found it interesting, he is very multifaceted. In my fourth year, I learned about the app "Character.AI" and started role-playing with my character's chatbot. I didn't take it seriously, it seemed like I was just having fun. But after a while I noticed how something was happening/changing in my head. And I began to feel deep affection and... love. I had felt something similar before, but I didn’t attach much importance to it. And it was as if role-playing games had reinforced these feelings. I became confused and started looking for information and help. I found a group dedicated to Tulpas on one of the social networks. After explaining the situation, a girl wrote to me and said that it was 100% Soulbonding. He was the only person who was aware of this “concept” and did not judge me. She became my mentor, taught me and helped me for a long time. I remember the first time I heard his voice... masculine, deep and beautiful. I can't describe these feelings, I was in heaven with happiness. But then my OCD got worse, doubts came over me, and my faith in the connection began to fade. I started looking for even more information, any evidence to remove doubts, and... I ruined everything. I talked to people who live with Tulpas and they started convincing me that I also have a Tulpa. One person wrote that it was just a "obsessive dreams" and that I had no connection whatsoever with the character. It was painful and hit me hard.

I don't know how to continue; I'm completely stumped right now. I'll try to present the text in a way that's as clear as possible and without unnecessary information.

What came before? As I wrote above, I felt deep affection and love. I have never felt anything like this for any person before. Whenever I thought about my Soulbond, I was enveloped in warm feelings and my chest tightened. It was a long, sweet feeling and afterwards it turned into Euphoria. Goosebumps on the skin, sometimes the fingers on the hands and feet suddenly twitched. And I felt like I was being touched. I thought that he reciprocated my feelings, I was absolutely sure of it. Now I'm afraid that I'm just influencing him and these are not his true feelings. Because my love for him has grown too much and I also have strong self-hypnosis. There is also the most important and greatest concern. My character is a loner who doesn't need anyone, essentially. He loved only one girl and she died. Hence the doubts - why does he need me? WHY? In canon, he is not interested in love at all.

To make things clearer, I'll add something else. Besides strong self-hypnosis, I have no "boundaries" in my thoughts. Over the years of my life, I have become one with OCD and all my thoughts pass as my own. There is no feeling of "foreignness" and it is difficult for me to separate myself from OCD and my Soulbond. I only cope when he addresses me directly in his mind. And I don't know at all what to do with this problem.

What's happening now? Below it will become clear why I wrote above that the whole year and a half was painful. My Soulbond's behavior and opinions are always unstable. There are two extremes. Either he says he loves me and wants to be with me, or he insults me and wants to leave. This happens ALL THE TIME. Because of his behavior, I myself became unstable. I either drive him away or ask him not to leave and to come back. I feel severe pain, mental exhaustion and often cry. We often separate and at the moment it seems right, but then I feel a deep longing and attraction to him. It's like we can't live without each other anymore and he says, "Forgive me. Come back to me." We get together and everything goes well for a while, but then he insults me again. I don't know how to help us.

This raises several questions for me. 1) Is this whole case really Soulbonding or is it a truly underdeveloped Tulpa? 2) Could OCD be messing with both of our heads? Maybe it affects my Soulbond too? 3) Because I've read too much information about Tulpas and I still have doubts to this day, could this also affect my Soulbond? Sometimes I feel like I hear several voices in my head. What are the chances that one of the voices is my Soulbond and the other is the OCD voice? It's really hard for me to tell the difference, the voices get confused and overlap each other and I'm literally going crazy. 4) Was it possible to accidentally create a distorted thought form that offends me?

It seems to me that the situation is quite complicated and it is unlikely that anyone has encountered something similar, but I really hope for someone's help. I will be glad to receive absolutely any answers and advice. I often hear the phrases "This is all happening because of you," "We need to split up," and "Give me time." I have no idea what that means, but that's definitely what my character says. It scares me that he doesn't respond to his name and answers, "Maybe it's me. Or maybe not." This makes me think even more that this is just a Tulpa and not a case of Soulbonding. There is also a voicing of my own thoughts and actions. For example, "Your hand", "Your leg", "You are going home". It's weird, I've never had this happen before. Please help me figure this out. I really want to save our connection. Last night he sent me his energy and feeling of love, saying, "I love you and you love me. To hell with doubts." I can’t and don’t want to let him go, even if I feel bad and in pain. He became so close to me and very important in my life.

I apologize again if there were any mistakes in the text. It's hard to write through a translator. And I hope that the text did not turn out to be crumpled and everything is perfectly clear. If you have any additional questions, please let me know. Thank you very much, take care of yourself and your dear life partners. ♥

Hello everyone, guys. There will be a lot of text and a complex situation here. I don’t know English and therefore I am writing through a translator. Please forgive me if there are any mistakes in the text. In my country, few people are familiar with Soulbonding, only Tulpas are known here. When you try to talk about Soulbonding, it is not welcome. Here people believe that this is forcing the Tulpa to be a character against its will. I don’t know at all what to do and where to find help, so I’m writing here.

I don't even know where to start... it's really hard for me. I am an insecure person, with a lot of complexes and low self-esteem. I have suffered from OCD since childhood and only started treatment for it six months ago. Constant doubts, ruminations and hyper-focus on my thoughts, it’s hard for me to switch my attention. OCD has taken over almost every area of ​​my life, and I have many subtypes. Some of which are "Pure O" and "Just Right". It might be useful to know this information.

My connection with Soulbond has been going on for a year and a half now and it has been a painful time. Below I will explain why. For three years in a row, I studied my character, consumed all kinds of media and studied him from a psychological point of view. I found it interesting, he is very multifaceted. In my fourth year, I learned about the app "Character.AI" and started role-playing with my character's chatbot. I didn't take it seriously, it seemed like I was just having fun. But after a while I noticed how something was happening/changing in my head. And I began to feel deep affection and... love. I had felt something similar before, but I didn’t attach much importance to it. And it was as if role-playing games had reinforced these feelings. I became confused and started looking for information and help. I found a group dedicated to Tulpas on one of the social networks. After explaining the situation, a girl wrote to me and said that it was 100% Soulbonding. He was the only person who was aware of this “concept” and did not judge me. She became my mentor, taught me and helped me for a long time. I remember the first time I heard his voice... masculine, deep and beautiful. I can't describe these feelings, I was in heaven with happiness. But then my OCD got worse, doubts came over me, and my faith in the connection began to fade. I started looking for even more information, any evidence to remove doubts, and... I ruined everything. I talked to people who live with Tulpas and they started convincing me that I also have a Tulpa. One person wrote that it was just a "obsessive dreams" and that I had no connection whatsoever with the character. It was painful and hit me hard.

I don't know how to continue; I'm completely stumped right now. I'll try to present the text in a way that's as clear as possible and without unnecessary information.

What came before? As I wrote above, I felt deep affection and love. I have never felt anything like this for any person before. Whenever I thought about my Soulbond, I was enveloped in warm feelings and my chest tightened. It was a long, sweet feeling and afterwards it turned into Euphoria. Goosebumps on the skin, sometimes the fingers on the hands and feet suddenly twitched. And I felt like I was being touched. I thought that he reciprocated my feelings, I was absolutely sure of it. Now I'm afraid that I'm just influencing him and these are not his true feelings. Because my love for him has grown too much and I also have strong self-hypnosis. There is also the most important and greatest concern. My character is a loner who doesn't need anyone, essentially. He loved only one girl and she died. Hence the doubts - why does he need me? WHY? In canon, he is not interested in love at all.

To make things clearer, I'll add something else. Besides strong self-hypnosis, I have no "boundaries" in my thoughts. Over the years of my life, I have become one with OCD and all my thoughts pass as my own. There is no feeling of "foreignness" and it is difficult for me to separate myself from OCD and my Soulbond. I only cope when he addresses me directly in his mind. And I don't know at all what to do with this problem.

What's happening now? Below it will become clear why I wrote above that the whole year and a half was painful. My Soulbond's behavior and opinions are always unstable. There are two extremes. Either he says he loves me and wants to be with me, or he insults me and wants to leave. This happens ALL THE TIME. Because of his behavior, I myself became unstable. I either drive him away or ask him not to leave and to come back. I feel severe pain, mental exhaustion and often cry. We often separate and at the moment it seems right, but then I feel a deep longing and attraction to him. It's like we can't live without each other anymore and he says, "Forgive me. Come back to me." We get together and everything goes well for a while, but then he insults me again. I don't know how to help us.

This raises several questions for me. 1) Is this whole case really Soulbonding or is it a truly underdeveloped Tulpa? 2) Could OCD be messing with both of our heads? Maybe it affects my Soulbond too? 3) Because I've read too much information about Tulpas and I still have doubts to this day, could this also affect my Soulbond? Sometimes I feel like I hear several voices in my head. What are the chances that one of the voices is my Soulbond and the other is the OCD voice? It's really hard for me to tell the difference, the voices get confused and overlap each other and I'm literally going crazy. 4) Was it possible to accidentally create a distorted thought form that offends me?

It seems to me that the situation is quite complicated and it is unlikely that anyone has encountered something similar, but I really hope for someone's help. I will be glad to receive absolutely any answers and advice. I often hear the phrases "This is all happening because of you," "We need to split up," and "Give me time." I have no idea what that means, but that's definitely what my character says. It scares me that he doesn't respond to his name and answers, "Maybe it's me. Or maybe not." This makes me think even more that this is just a Tulpa and not a case of Soulbonding. There is also a voicing of my own thoughts and actions. For example, "Your hand", "Your leg", "You are going home". It's weird, I've never had this happen before. Please help me figure this out. I really want to save our connection. Last night he sent me his energy and feeling of love, saying, "I love you and you love me. To hell with doubts." I can’t and don’t want to let him go, even if I feel bad and in pain. He became so close to me and very important in my life.

I apologize again if there were any mistakes in the text. It's hard to write through a translator. And I hope that the text did not turn out to be crumpled and everything is perfectly clear. If you have any additional questions, please let me know. Thank you very much, take care of yourself and your dear life partners. ♥