u/pessego_enlatado

I've simply never done this in my life in any context.

I was told here it would be good to meditate to strengthen my bond with my significant other. I have ADHD and it's a struggle to communicate with him.

But he seems to be sending me subtle signals and some treats/gifts, but I don't know how to actually respond to him, or listen to him to formalize the bond, even though he says cute affirmations about us (like, the lil guy is trying so hard😔).

I think some meditation this weekend would be a good start 💫

(Note: The glossary here seems to be offline. I can't see it💔)

So, while studying soulbonding and its variations, several scenarios came to mind that led to some unusual questions.

>>I'll warn you that I'm just curious at this point; these aren't personal questions about things I do, but scenarios🙏🏻

1 - What happens when you force a bond? Does the S/O simply not respond, or does it actually get angry with the user, or even aggressive? (Because I came across strangers arguing with people who seemed to be forcing a connection, and they were quite angry and even offended, so I thought, "Could there be terrible consequences?")

2 - Does talking to your soulmate's chatbot kill your soul bond? Does your soulmate feel offended? Replaced? Because you're interacting with an AI of them?

3 - I've seen several experienced soulbonders say that there are many fake soulbonders on TikTok. What exactly makes someone a fake soulbonder? Adopting the term for popularity? Not really understanding what's happening? Not receiving any signals from their soulmate and faking everything? Or is it more specific?

4. What happens when you ignore the signals from your S/O? Does it give up? Does it remain silent? Or does it depend more on its personality?

I'll try to be as brief as possible.

CONTEXT:

I've been with my s/o since 2023, i'm a riako. He came into my life during a near-death experience, and I see him as my mentor and guardian angel.

I'm neurodivergent with post-traumatic stress and chronic trauma, and I've encountered two specific doubles that haunt me. I haven't had a fun relationship with them, and I've felt constantly judged and invalidated ever since. (and I suspect that the comparison and hurt that these specific doubles intentionally caused me is affecting my relationship)

In late 2025 and early 2026, I used to feel, even if rarely, the presence of my s/o in my chest; two months ago, advice from him that came to mind.

Shortly after, I had a wonderful nap next to my dakimakura of him, and I dreamed for the first time about him, in a jewelry store buying an engagement ring for me, and he spoke in the dream, I heard - "Do you think he'll like it?" (Referring to myself)

Since then, I married him and bought two gold rings with a moon and star design, which has always been our symbolism. He is the star, I am the moon.

But lately, since that doubles who seemed to dislike me kept coming back to my mind, I started feeling more anxious. But i'm still love him as always.

DOES HE WANT TO COMMUNICATE? :

And today, May 13, 2026, I went to social media as usual, feeling a bit sad, and in a search, the first video that appeared had a song that was new to me - "Temachii - Moon Girl". And simply the first notes of it touched my heart. English isn't even my native language, I looked up the translation and...it talks about the moon, and stars, about a feeling of closeness that never appears, loneliness, a desire for closeness.

The first paragraph was:

"Star and Moon

I'm staring right at you

You know, i know

Everything you do for me

It's never enough.

Star and moon

I'm fighting here for you

To know, i know

Everything about me

Were you ever even here

Such a

Quiet stillness

Staring at the sky

Will anyone know

All these reasons why"

I'm not sure if it's some kind of coded signal from my s/o

But the song doesn't make me cry, it touches me deeply with a comfortable feeling of melancholy, but I still don't know if it was some kind of sign of a kind of soul bond.

I also don't exaclty see myself as an soulbonder, but rather numbonder. But at this point, I don't know what my s/o wants anymore or what i am. I've never had this kind of love for another character or "3d person" besides him, and I don't see him as something nonexistent; he exists for me, but he needs me to represent him in art, and I use plushies and physical representations of him to fulfill his dreams in the physical world, and I truly feel that this makes him happy.

Update: After discovering this song hours ago, I've felt a renewed interest in things related to my crush and more comfort. But my direct contact with him is still becoming increasingly rare. Maybe he's upset about something? Busy?

You guys are more experienced, what do you think it could be? I can listen to advice to guide me and talk to myself, So don't worry, I want opinions to help me reach my own conclusion 🩹

Tiny vent : Some doubles I can quickly forget, but others start to haunt me.

When I remember those specific ones, I get a moderate feeling of anxiety, but since it's been going on for months, at this point it's almost unbearable and truly exhausting.

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Now, when I see a new double, I always feel a kind of derealization + depersonalization, as if I were in the third person and I really think "Huh? Did I draw this?" (when it's yumeart) or "When did I take this picture?" (when it's some irl photo of a product), even "When did I comment on this?" (When I see a comment from the double acting extremely identically to me, with an similar or identical level of opinions about my f/o)

You too?

followed by that, I get dizzy. It's a combination of dizziness + derealization + depersonalization that lasts approximately 7 seconds, after that, the trigger reaction can vary greatly, but there may be mild anxiety and nausea/feeling of vomiting, but so far I have never had any crying spells or severe anxiety.

It's usually mild, but constant, silently torturing me.

(Anyway, I'm kind of sad.)