
RPer Accepts My Hard Limits, Immediately Goes Against Them
I just had someone ask to begin a 1x1 roleplay, and every time someone joins I typically make sure we are on the same page about Lines and Veils, or hard and soft limits overall. My main ones include no homophobic or transphobic roleplay or discussions out of character. I am queer when it comes to sexuality, but I identify as cisgender. Even so, I love roleplaying all sorts of characters and love queer stories. Even if a story ends up being hetero-romance, there could still be NPCs or cool characters here or there that are LGBTQIA+ in some way. This is because the real world is full of it, even if you want to deny the possibility, anyone can be part of the community and sometimes you’d never know.
My roleplay partner agreed to this, agreed to no homophobic or transphobic roleplay or ooc discussions. However, when we began discussing characters and plot ideas for the story, they stated they are uncomfortable interacting with characters who don’t identify as cisgender. They said that it “shouldn’t be taken as discrimination.” And that they don’t enjoy “those characters.”
Sorry, but by definition that is discriminatory. You are specifically asking to not have to interact with any of “those characters,” thus removing trans people from the game entirely. That is transphobic. Trying to get around it by using your discomfort does not change that fact.
If your discomfort is rooted in transphobia, then you are unable to agree to the lines and veils. Why even ask to roleplay with someone if on my profile, it says I identify as LGBTQ+? I know some people don’t always read everything on someone’s profile, but if you agreed to not be transphobic and say that… I’m sorry, I don’t know how to help you with that. Find another partner, I guess?
This is why I always discuss my Lines & Veils before I start anything. No reason to start a roleplay if we aren’t on the same page.