Do I ask him on a date?
Hello! This is going to sound a little ridiculous, as I am currently writing this list at midnight, I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. This of course is being posted on a throwaway account.
I am an 18 (F), due to graduate high school in a few weeks. There is this guy 18 (M), I know him from my schools drama club, I’m going to call him Meatball (it’s an inside joke with him, don’t worry it isn’t a mean joke). Meatball and I have been in several shows together, never love interests if you all are worried about proximity crushes, and he has always stood out to me. He just…has this energy to him unlike anybody I’ve ever met. He is just so unbelievably attentive, and engaged in whatever I talk about, while also having a sassy side to him. Even though we have some very different interests (he plays with rubix cubes lmfao), and some overlapping ones (like theater and marvel), he is always so attentive even when I’m talking about mine. And honestly I can’t stop thinking about him. But we actually have only hung out once outside of school and theater.
Here are the issues, the biggest being that I have never been in a real relationship before. I did some VERY BRIEF dating in middle school, but have had no relationships since. I also am asexual. These two things combined make me scared that I wouldn’t be enough for Meatball, or that he might think I was leading him on when it turns out that I’m asexual (NOT AROMANTIC). I also cant decide if it’s a good idea to ask him out considering 1, we are both going to different colleges around an hour away from each other, and 2. he had a weird incident with another girl from my theater not too long ago.
To be clear this was a few months ago, probably five, around the first show of the year. Basically what happened was this girl from my theater, I’ll call Cinderella had the hots for Meatball. This was obvious to EVERYONE around them. This culminated in her eventually telling Meatball she had feelings for him, however when Meatball reciprocated these feelings she decided that was super weird of him? Which I find lowkey crazy, and my friends do as well (Cinderella told my bsf her perspective, and my bsf still thinks Cinderella was the one being weird). So like, would it be mean of me to ask him out considering that?
With all of those things considered, Reddit, what should I do?