Help a girlie out
I would appreciate some Islamic advice regarding a situation I'm trying to understand.
I (F22) met a convert brother (F23) in January. He told me that he had marriage with his ex-wife (F22) around July 2025. They had known each other for only a few months before marrying, and the marriage was long-distance, with each of them living in different countries. According to him, communication between them had broken down by around November 2025, and they later divorced.
From what he has told me, he entered marriage because he wanted to do things the halal way and avoid dating. We are all in our early 20s, and his ex-wife was a practicing Muslim while he was a relatively new convert at the time. I should also mention that I am Muslim, but I am not particularly religious myself, so I am asking from a place of genuinely wanting to learn rather than judge.
The timeline feels quite fast to me: they knew each other for only a few months before nikah, married around July 2025, communication broke down around November 2025, and then I met him in January 2026.
He has described the divorce as involving issues of trust, privacy, and conflict within the marriage. I have also heard from some people who know him that he could be impatient during disagreements. Since I only know one side of the story, I am trying not to make assumptions about either person. Part of why I still feel uncertain is that early on, I noticed his location appeared to be in the same city where his ex-wife lives, even though he told me he was somewhere else. I do not know whether that means anything, but it made me question whether I fully understood the situation.
I also noticed that his ex-wife still has his name on some of her social media profiles, although there are no photos of them together and no obvious signs that they are still in a relationship.
One thing I struggle with is that whenever I ask questions about the previous marriage, he often becomes quite emotional. I completely understand that divorce can be painful, but I sometimes find it difficult to know whether I should keep asking questions or simply accept that some topics are sensitive.
From an Islamic perspective, is there anything concerning about that timeline by itself? Is it generally considered acceptable for someone to pursue another relationship relatively soon after a divorce, assuming the divorce was valid and completed?
How much detail is reasonable to ask a potential spouse about their previous marriage? Is it appropriate to ask about the reasons for the divorce, or should those matters largely remain private?
I would especially appreciate hearing from converts, people who married young, or anyone with knowledge of Islamic guidance on these situations.
Thanks y'all