Why do some people look for an extramarital relationship even when they happily married?
This is something I genuinely don’t understand, so I wanted to hear different perspectives.
I know of a guy who, from the outside, seemed like a very loving husband. He and his wife have a child, they spend time together, travel, laugh, and generally look like a really happy family. He also appeared to genuinely care about his wife.
But later, I came to know that he had another relationship outside the marriage.
That completely confused me.
I can somewhat understand why someone in a very unhappy, toxic, or emotionally disconnected marriage might start looking outside the relationship — not saying it’s right, but at least you can understand where the temptation might come from.
But what about someone who is apparently happy with their spouse?
Veettil loving wife/husband undu, kutti undu, family life happy aanu… pinne enthina vere oru relationship?
സന്തോഷമുള്ള ഒരു marriage ഉണ്ടായിട്ടും ചിലർക്ക് എന്തുകൊണ്ടാണ് പുറത്തൊരു relationship വേണമെന്ന് തോന്നുന്നത്?
Is it excitement?
Validation?
Physical attraction?
Boredom?
Ego?
The thrill of doing something secret?
Or can somebody genuinely love their spouse and still cheat on them?
എനിക്ക് ഏറ്റവും മനസ്സിലാകാത്തത് അതാണ് — സ്വന്തം partner-ne genuinely love ചെയ്യുന്ന ഒരാൾക്ക് എങ്ങനെ മറ്റൊരാളുമായി ഒരു relationship maintain ചെയ്യാൻ പറ്റും?
And sometimes the spouse has absolutely no idea because everything at home continues normally. 😐
Have you ever seen something like this happen? What do you think is actually going on psychologically when a person in an apparently happy marriage cheats?
Judgement വേണ്ട, genuinely curious to hear different perspectives. 👀