u/No_Raisin_9327

Hi everyone, I’m a man and recently I’ve had sex with a man for the first time. I’ve always been really attracted to men and always wanted to have sex with them, but when it finally happened it just felt ok, which surprised me because I’ve kinda been obsessed with it and thought it would be amazing but it was just ok and not something I really wanna do often or ever maybe, I’m not sure if this is the effect of porn or something else. Also nothing wrong happened or anything like that, plus I was in love with this man too.

Did anyone experience something like this?

Hi everyone, I’m 18M, I have always been attracted to older men and I mean 40+ and my attraction to girls has been there but I never really focused on girls, 3 months ago I had my first experience with an older man and after that I felt like my attraction to men went from 100% to 40%, I’m still clearly attracted to them still, and that didn’t happen because it was a bad experience or anything like that, but I don’t know what happened, I felt like after so many years of craving to be with a man and when I finally got it I didn’t really enjoy it as much as I thought, I had a couple of experiences after the first guy but I’m not desperate for men anymore like I used to if that makes sense..

in those 3 months I can tell my attraction to women has gotten higher a bit (I’d say from 10% to 30%) but I feel like it’s still not enough to be in a relationship, I’m saying this because I’m really confused about my sexuality, at this moment I feel like I don’t see sex as a priority, if it happens that’s great if it didn’t it’s not a must, but I feel like I wanna be in a relationship with a women and not a man, cuz the age gap between me and men would be massive and it just wouldn’t work and honestly I just never saw a future with men.

I haven’t had any sexual interaction with girls yet, but I hope so in the near future, but sometimes I just feel like I don’t know if my attraction to women would ever be higher or not cuz I always saw my future with a woman and kids and that’s what I really want, and I wanna ask if any of you had a similar experience, or just suddenly their attraction went higher to some gender when it was low, or any advice in general.

Because lately I’ve been overthinking what I actually like and if I was actually bi or not