How to get better?
I have 12 hours in the game, bought it yesterday, all this time I played in Ireland trying to take over the whole island (and failed) at 867, I tried several times in several playthroughs and failed.. only one time did I somewhat succeeded when I chose to become a Cheiftian instead of a Duchy, I made the kingdom of Ireland (I didn't take over the whole of Ireland only like half, and then Ivar the freaking boneless came with 6,000 soldiers and kidnapped my wife...
I tried several approaches to do it, Marshal focus, stewardship focus, at the end of all of them I ended up in debt..
What am I supposed to do? Should I not conquer anything in my first lifetime, focus only on money and allies and making children to marry them off, then when I die and become my heir and have enough money and shit should I focus on conquest, or what?