u/Nocallerid200

Hey everyone, this is probably going to be my final update on this situation so ill male it quik and to the point.

Well ig she was telling the truth.Jazz is pregnant.....19 FUCKING weeks actually

Which is actually concerning considering before all of this started we have been going out smoking drinking bar hopping so 19 weeks is crazy work.

that part was true. She planed on keeping the baby from the very start

I assume she's going to use it as a way to try and get back with Tatum

who has officially updated his relationship status and let everyone know he's in. New Relationshipz🙃. She's 19 but I'm not really going to get into all of that.

Jazz has been trying to talk to me again and wanted to make amends. At first, I actually considered letting her back into my life, but after talking with Alex and a few other close friends, I realized it's better to move on. Right now, I need to focus on my mental health and this new chapter of my life.

I honestly wish Jazz the best. I don't hate her anymore, and I hope she has a healthy pregnancy. I also hope Tatum steps up and does the right thing.

As for Alex, she's honestly the best woman in the world. I don't know where I'd be without her. She's been amazing through all of this and has truly been like a sister to me.

So, that's how everything ended. I completely ghosted Tatum, and he did the same. I honestly doubt he even tried reaching out.

As for me, my pregnancy was terminated, and now I'm focusing on bigger and better things. Thank you all for the advice, support, and reality checks throughout this whole mess.

Peace out, Reddit.

For starters, I know everyone wanted me to confront them that night and say something, but honestly, I just wasn't in the right headspace emotionally or mentally to deal with all of that at once. Watching my boyfriend kiss my best friend right in front of me was enough to get the hint. The next few days Alex and I spent most of it in bed just trying to stay positive. I pretty much ghosted everyone. That was until 3 days later when I woke up to a message request from Jaz's older sister. We've known each other for years, and being the oldest in my family, I've never had an older sibling, so she was basically like an older sister to me. I'll call her Carly (F29).

I'm ngl when I first saw the request, I thought she was reaching out to defend Jaz or argue. Instead, she told me she assumed I had blocked her number after everything that happened, and she wanted to apologize. She also said there were things I needed to know and asked me to call her whenever I saw the message. I waited 3hrs and talked it over with Alex.

Apparently, the night Jaz left my apartment after confessing everything, she went straight to Carly's house and told her everything. And according to Carly, this wasn't just seven months. Its been over a fucking Year!

Last summer, when Jaz told me she was going out of the country with her college friends, my boyfriend went with her. Different flights. Different pictures. Everything was carefully hidden. Around that time, I didn't have Tatum's location, so I just believed him when he told me he was spending spring break with family.

While I was texting my boyfriend asking how his trip was and telling my best friend I hoped she was having fun, the two people I trusted most were in another country Living it up.

Carly was crying while telling me all of this. ever since Jaz came home from college these past two years, we've slowly drifted apart. Carly knew I had a bf and knew his name was Tatum, but whenever Jaz talked about him, she called him "Brady," which is the name of her ex. Carly had no reason to think anything of it until the night Jaz confessed everything.

Carly said she wanted to tell me immediately, but Jaz was spiraling and kept saying she couldn't lose our friendship and didnt wanna "Over stress herself during this time".

all these memories came flooding back. Times Tatum wouldn't answer. Times Jaz would randomly disappear. Her bringing me gifts back from that trip and constantly checking in. His weird obsession with wanting to visit that country someday.

Were they fucking laughing at me? they came home hanging around me, joking with me, and act normal knowing what they had fucking done?

Because I would've died before hurting her like that.

Then Carly told me something that honestly broke my heart more than anything. Jaz genuinely thought Tatum loved her. Not more than me. Not enough to leave me. But she thought eventually he would. She thought that once he was ready, they'd be together. And honestly, that broke me. Because she threw away years of friendship over a man who never even chose her.

2 days after I blocked him, Tatum started talking and hooking up with ither girls she even caught him on tinder. According to Carly, Tatum looked her dead in the fucking face and said,

"I never asked you to fall in love with me. And this is your fault. You ruined my relationship."

And honestly, hearing that irritated me so much. Because she spent all this time lying to me,and convincing herself that one day she'd get her happy ending this way

And in the end, she lost me. And he moved on like she it was nothing.

Now she's claiming she's pregnant, and apparently she's been staying with Carly because she's not comfortable being alone right now. Despite everything, I genuinely feel bad for her. Because this wasn't some random girl. This was my person. The girl who held my hand after my mom died. The girl who slept on my bedroom floor and ditch with me when I had panic attacks in high school. The girl who knew every embarrassing thing about me. The girl I always imagined standing beside me at my wedding. And I don't even know who she is anymore.

She's just a stranger. And maybe that's the part I can't get over. Not losing my boyfriend, because honestly, he can fuck off. It's losing her. Because even after everything she's done, I still catch myself wanting to text her. I still miss my best friend. And I hate myself for that. Carly asked me if I thought I'd ever forgive Jaz, and I cried harder than I have since all of this started.

And I think I'm finally accepting that the girl Ive fallen in love with all these years is gone.. Or maybe she disappeared a long time ago, and I just loved her too much to see it.

First, I just want to thank everyone for the kind comments and messages I've received

I'm going to get straight to the point. I kept my word and didn't mention anything about cheating or what Jaz had told me to my boyfriend. I texted him back and forth like everything was normal. Although, I did notice he slowly started asking if I was okay and if something was wrong. Mind you, I was texting exactly like I normally do.

I immediately assumed Jaz had talked to him first like most of you did. Anyway, the night my roommate got home, I told her everything that had happened. She's very close with our friend group, and I'd consider her one of my best friends as well. I'll call her Alex (F24).

The second I told Alex what happened, we both assumed Jaz was lying just to hurt me or mess with my head. I was hoping that was the case.

Sunday evening, my boyfriend, who I'll call Tatum (M25), told me he didn't need a ride home from the airport. For context, I was originally supposed to pick him up, and go out for a quick dinner, and then head back to his place. He said he'd probably be tired and jetlagged and that his brother was going to take him home instead.

About twenty minutes before his plane was supposed to land, Alex sent me a screenshot and immediately FaceTimed me. It was Jaz's Snapchat location. And a picture on Her Private story with a picture of Her sitting in the car saying "cant wait to be reunited with my soul mate"At the airport.

Immediately, I felt fucking sick. Three hours went by before Alex got home from work. I still had Tatum's location, and I could see that he was back at his apartment. So Alex and I decided to do a quick drive-by.

The second we pulled into the parking lot, I saw that bitches car. And it took everything in me not To go knock on the door.

I texted Tatum and asked what he was doing. I even told him I missed him. He responded almost immediately and said he and his roommate were playing COD While I was texting him, jaz started calling alex asking why she was screenshoting her story, and Alex said " why are you fucking around with tatum"

Jaz hung up immediately. For about ten minutes, I just sat there in the parking lot crying while Alex tried to talk me through everything.

Then I saw Jaz walk out of the building. And that's when everything became real. Tatum walked her to her car kissed her, and then went right back inside.

I didn't confront either of them. I didn't scream. I didn't call. I didn't do anything.

Honestly, it was more than I could process. Of all the people in the world, I never thought she would be the one to do this to me.

Fuck loosing Tatum im loosing my fucking bestfriend She was my other half. She was family. She was the person I thought would always be there. Right now, I'm just lost.

After a week and a half of barely speaking, our group chat was pretty active last night because we were all discussing the first vote of the season. Everyone noticed how dry Jazz was being. So I texted her and asked if she was alright because, despite everything, I was genuinely worried about her.

She asked if she could come over the next day aka today and talk.

Honestly, I thought it was going to be some huge misunderstanding. Maybe she was stressed. Maybe something was going on. When she finally came over, she looked exhausted. Like she either hadn't slept in days or had been crying nonstop.

We sat down, and it was awkward as hell. I'm not a patient person. I'll admit that. So I just asked her point blank What is this actually about? And she immediately started crying.

The first thing she said was: It's not about Love Island. like, I KNOW it's not about Love Island. Girl, tell me what the problem is.

Then she looked at me and said: I don't think you've needed me in years. Honestly? I laughed. Not because it was funny, but because I genuinely thought there had to be more. The way she said it wasn't even sad. It almost sounded sarcastic. I asked her what she was talking about. She said that when we were younger, we were inseparable. Now she feels like she barely knows what's going on in my life anymore.

Which honestly confused me because I see this girl at least three times a week. But for a second, it felt like I got hit by a truck. Because from her perspective, maybe things really had changed.

She started listing things.

How I work more now. Like girl! I have bills to pay and i live alone i can't depend on my parents like you. How I moved into my own apartment instead of waiting so we could live together like we'd talked about when we were younger For context: .(she moved in with her bf and When they broke up she basically expected me to drop my lease to Get a place with her and i said no keep in mind she moved in with her bf before i moved into my own place).

How I went on a spring break trip last year to a resort we'd always talked about visiting together. ( Even tho she was out of the country with her College friends during this time visiting places we always talked about doing together)

She pointed out that she found out about a lot of things through social media or mutual friends instead of hearing them directly from me. I started feeling awful. Like maybe I really hadn't been trying hard enough. I always assumed she'd be there I thought we were just adults with jobs, responsibilities, and different schedules.

She spent 2 years living 3 hours away while she was in college, and I think part of me just assumed our friendship would automatically stay the same after she moved back.

Then she brought up something I hadn't even considered. She said when her 4year relationship ended almost 3 years ago, she felt like her entire world was falling apart. And around the same time, I was starting a new relationship.

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. She said watching me move forward while she was struggling made her feel left behind And that seeing an "i miss you" text come in from my bf Is what brought to the point in gathering her Sleepover bag and I was tearing up at that point.

Then she said watching me talk about Love Island that night, seeing all the stickers, hearing me joke around it reminded her that she didn't really know me anymore. And then she admitted she'd been feeling this way for almost 3 years. I was questioning whether I'd been a bad friend.

And then she completely broke down. Crying,Hyperventilating. I immediately got up and started trying to calm her down. I was asking her what was wrong.

And that's when she told me there was something else. Y'all. I was literally sitting there consoling her. Feeling guilty. Blaming myself. Questioning our entire friendship.

And this whole time she had been Fucking around on me. She admitted that she'd been hooking up with my boyfriend behind my back for the last seven months I honeetly thought I misheard her. I just stared at her. Like bitch Are you serious? Please tell me you're not being serious. She just kept crying. Kept apologizing. Kept shaking her head. And before I could even process what was happening, she grabbed her purse and left.

That conversation happened three hours ago. I haven't moved. I'm still sitting here trying to figure out if any of this is real. My boyfriend is supposed to be out of town with his family right now. And somehow this is what I have to deal with instead. I don't even know where to go from here

Okay guys, bear with me because I know this story is going to sound Dramatic and fucking ridiculous. At this point, I'm even questioning how our friendship has lasted as long as it has, considering this is apparently what might make or break it.

As you guys know, Love Island has officially started again. I've been an avid Love Island USA watcher since Season 1.

Basically, my(F23) friend( Jaz F24) and I have this thing where, if we're hanging out, we'll switch phones and scroll through each other's TikTok Fyps for Fun to count down the time.

Jaz decidded she finally wanted to toon into Love island usa so we decided to watch the premier together

I guess she saw a love island TikTok she liked and wanted to leave a sticker comment. She was scrolling through my saved stickers and noticed that I had a lot of Love Island stickers, but they were Islanders she apparently didn't like.

Before anyone asks how she doesn't know which Islanders I like or dislike when she's my best friend, here's some context. I've only watched Love Island USA and Love Island Australia. I've never even attempted to watch Love Island UK. My friend, however, is an avid Love Island UK watcher. She's watched pretty much every season from what I know. As for Love Island USA, she told me she'd only watched Season 1 and preferred UK, so I assumed she stopped keeping up with the USA version after that.

She starts naming Islanders like Hannah, Rob, Kaylor, Huda,Deb, and leo?

She was asking why I didn't have stickers of them and what my opinions were on them. Honestly, I had to think back because the only names that immediately registered were Huda and Kaylor, and that's only because they were on more recent seasons.

I started joking around and asked, "What meme are you looking for? What's the TikTok? What's the joke you're trying to make?"

She explained it, and I suggested she use a sticker of Chelly or Leah (both stickers i thought went well with the Joke she was trying to make)

I don't know what happened, but the energy completely shifted.

We had literally been joking around one second, and then she looked me dead in the face and said, "I just think it's kind of weird that we don't like the same Islanders."

I laughed and reminded her that I didn't even know she was keeping up with the newer seasons. When those seasons were airing, I'd talk about them in our group chats and Hangouts, and she never really engaged. She acted like she wasn't interested and only ever wanted to discuss Love Island UK.

So I asked, Wait, are you actually upset, or are you messing with me?

And I swear she stood up , gathered up her sleepover bag, got her stuff together, and left.

Before leaving, she said she needed to think about our friendship because the people I like on Love Island versus the people she likes apparently say a lot about us as friends.

So now I'm asking you guys: what exactly went wrong?

I legitimately don't know.

We were laughing, joking, and having a good time, and then she suddenly got serious out of nowhere.

For context,We've been best friends for over 10 years. Our families know each other. Our friends overlap. We're basically locked in.

I don't want to make this seem bigger than it is by making this post, but it's been a week now. She's been super dry with me, and she even canceled our hangout yesterday.

I'm trying to figure out if this is actually about Love Island or if there's something deeper going on that she's not telling me.

Can anybody help me understand this? Because I'm honestly lost for words that this would be the thing that might make or break our friendship.