u/NonyaBiznes89

Back story: myself and this woman have worked in the same company for about a year. She's been there much longer. We never really spoke until recently when a group of us hung out and we all had a lot of fun.

She invited me out and I accepted the offer and didn't think anything of it. That same night she expresses that she likes me and she wanted to date me. I told her I'm straight and don't date women. Plus, I was surprised because come to find out she's in the closet even though

we all thought she was straight. A portion of her extended family knows too.

She explained that her husband knew even before they got married but he had hopes that things would change. She explained to him thats not how it works and she's not bisexual but she is a lesbian and wants to let the relationship go because shes unhappy and feels miserable. Yes, there are children involved.

This comes back to me because she says she can't just be my friend but I genuinely love her as a friend but now things are getting complicated. Honestly, I started having feelings for her and I hate to admit that. I'm attracted to men but I'm also someone who values deep connections.

I think I may have to drop the friendship because it's all or nothing with her. I can't be with her because she's married whether she wants to be or not and realistically I'm not bisexual or a lesbian so how much further could this go?

I'm stuck and really not sure what to do. Sounds like I have to let a friendship go because she said she can't see me as a friend.

Please be easy on me. I value honesty but I would also appreciate if you lead with kindness.

Also, I apologize if my terminology isnt current. I try to be respectful of pronouns, sexualities and preferences.

This may or may not matter to some of you but we're a few years apart, 30s, I'm younger.