u/Normal_Difference241

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I really like my roommate what do I do?

OK for backstory I’m a 19-year-old female and my roommate is a 22-year-old male we kind of grew up together. We went to the same high school. He was my trainer my very first job and for the sake of the story let’s call him William William and I moved in together last year. We have our own separate rooms, bathrooms, etc. however we have always been close in the sense of just telling each other random things and about like love lives, and what not but a big caveat to the story is his once upon a Time best friend was my boyfriend I have hinted and admitted to him in the past years of me, knowing him that I did have a crush on him, but my crush as long since died and normally, I am perfectly fine with being just friends. I actually prefer that we stay just friends but recently we’ve been getting weirdly close. I’ve woken up in his bed a couple times and we’re like cuddling or will send each other stuff on Instagram and I’ll show it to my friends and they’ll say oh yeah girl he likes you and I’m really confused because I feel personally like he doesn’t like me, but everyone else is saying that he does and I feel like I’m stuck in this weird limbo seat, where he doesn’t but I kinda do on the flip end. I don’t wanna lose him as a friend if he did like me and I’m low-key panicking, what should I do?

Update

OK, i have been distancing myself because I am unsure of how I really wanna go about this with him notably we still send rules to each other, but I haven’t been waking up in his bed, which I feel like is a good step. However, our text messages and reels have been more on the flirtatious side or just no filter. An example of this is he sent me a reel about eating box and when girls make the first move, it’s always a green light which he never really has sent me things like that. Small personal life update I got my🍒 pierced a couple days ago so they’re sore and I don’t know why but it’s comfortable for me to lay on my stomach so if we’re on the couch, I’m normally like laying against him and he’s been more recently like if I don’t do that. He’ll make a comment talking about oh you’re not gonna lay on your favorite pillow or not in reference to him or that we fit so well against each other, which feels like progress in a more flirty way, but I’m unsure how to take any of this I don’t know if I wanna go along with it or not

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