u/Nortekun

I (22M ENFP) feel a bit stuck. There is a great 20 Y/O INFP girl who I've known her family forever now and have pretty much become the son they didn't have - been told I'm always welcome and even if I needed to, could stay/live with them. And I do love our conversations - literally any time me and her sat to watch a movie late at night we'd forget the movie was even going on and get so involved and entertained by our own conversations that the movie seemed uninteresting in comparison - losing track of time and ending up staying up until like 2-4 AM just talking, laughing, having an overall great time. I could see an amazing future. And now we are talking every day. Problem is I am about 3 hours away from where they live now (I moved) and she is going to college - 6 hours away from where she lives and 7 away from where I live. And it will be that way for at least 4 years... And a long distance relationship that far away for that long, I don't want to be selfish and try when she is just starting her college career and could meet someone amazing right next to her that they could have a normal great relationship right there with her.

Now there is another girl (20 INFJ), she seems pretty cool. We have good convos whenever we do talk at church. And I get along great with family. We have intuitive type convos (same as with INFP girl, just less all over the place lol) and playful and laughter and such and there are hints here and there we may like each other. But I have far less history with her, she is an hour and a half away at college (but I go to her church so there is some common thread there - but won't see her most of the summer this summer or school year as she doesn't come home much during school.) We've talked here and there - her doing subtle things like when I was asking her to teach me some french words, she taught me "how are you", "thank you", "good", started talking about how the french word for "good" was similar to the spanish word and she started teaching me a couple of french words that started with "b" - the last one being "Beau" - which means handsome. Kinda froze, mind blank, looked up at the ceiling and acted like I was trying to learn the french word by saying it a couple times and moved on - didn't really "flirt" back or anything - mainly because my mind went blank lol. So not too sure if she was flirting either or just teaching french words, idk. (If there happens to be any INFJs reading and theyd like to give their opinion on if it may or may not be flirting - would definitely appreciate lol) I do like her and could see things going good or even great, but I just don't have as much history or actual time with her - as we have only had time after church to talk and not actually real long deep convos or anything like that. But we were the last ones in church talking and talked for probably like an hour in that one instance lol.

But anyways just feel a little stuck - I dont want to try to pursue anything with INFJ girl and be talking to the INFP girl every day - I dont want to do INFP girl (or the INFJ girl for that matter) that way. She doesn't deserve that and is genuinely a great beautiful human being. But I also don't want to get into something with the INFP girl that ends up just being bad for her or me and ends up taking away her possibilities of finding someone that can be good for her close to her with a normal non LDR relationship - but I could see it ending up great for us because we just get each other. But 4 years 7 hours away is a long time and a long distance. Idk. What should I do?