u/NotABloodOrange

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About two years ago I started a new job, without being too specific there’s two types of work at my job, I do a lot of office stuff and scheduling while others do commission work. I help schedule those commissions for them along with other things. One of the girls who worked commission based (I’ll call her Sam) is about 10 years older than me had a lot of the same interests as me. So we hit it off really well, to the point where we would chat in our down times often and often text. We never really had the chance to go hang out together outside of work due to conflicting schedules but we always stayed in touch. We became very close about October 2025 where she invited me to live with her as roommates. I declined as I had just moved and my boyfriend was moving in with me soon and I knew she meant just me. We had continued our work friendship until January 2026 where Sam has suffered a serious medical episode. Her best friend (I’ll call her Maddy) told us about it and kept in touch. While I never knew Maddy personally, I had heard about her. Maddy kept in touch with us the best she could. About a month later, Sam’s relatives decided they couldn’t handle the pressure of her medical care and it was decided to take her off medical support. Sam was conscious and had shrugged whenever asked if she wanted to be off. She would’ve lived a very different and challenging life had they not pulled it. During the dying process, the family essentially all left the state, said bye and just ditched her and banned anyone from seeing her while she was in hospice waiting to die. Maddy had lost contact with us for a few weeks as our staff processed losing a friend and coworker. Sam had passed very young, mid 30’s to something that has a 80% survivability rate. It’s been months and I can’t stop thinking about her, I don’t have many friends being alternative and living in a small town. I can’t help but feel this is incredibly unfair and her family left to her die on her own. They have not set up a funeral or headstone for her. It’s like her own family forgot about her. Her brother ,who was close with her, claimed he was going to do all these things for her and has abandoned every single one of them. Im aware funerals are expensive but this family was well off, they had lots of money. They also took the money from a go fund me her friends set up for after life services and it never happened. They sold her stuff and refused to let any of her friends have anything of hers. I’m just so upset and healing has become impossible knowing this is how it ended. I don’t know what to do. Maddy and I have gotten to know each other but it feels odd to me…like I’m replacing Sam.