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We’re late 50’s/early 60’s coming from the PNW and going to Cabo (staying in the marina area) for a few days next week. We’ve been to PV, Cancun, PDC, in recent years but first trip to Cabo. We’re not into clubs or anything like that (good bar recs for the afternoon/evening are great though) wondering from those who live there/been there a lot ….what are things you’d recommend doing during a short stay? I’m doing research on this sub and otherwise but would like to hear from others here who have BTDT. Anything across the board to make the most of only a few days.

Appreciate any insight!

I recently took a break from all things BPD, most notably my dBPD mother, but back for a question and some sanity.

Mom and I are VVLC to NC for the past year or so and her primary flying monkey, her alcoholic live in boyfriend, has chosen to be extremely aggressive about it. She hasn’t done a whole lot to get my attention but he is over the top when we come across him. I think she acts very waify around him which encourages him to be incredibly aggressive when he sees us. She knows exactly what she’s doing. He’s tried confronting me on my own property to the point where my neighbors called the police and he does other things too, like acting crazy and aggressive in public.

All the months where there was zero contact I was doing REALLY well with her absence and lack of toxicity. With my mom’s absence there’s been almost no tension in my home, which is great. Lately flying monkey BF guy has been driving past our house to lay on his horn, flip us off if he sees us, and recently he resumed his aggressive driving when he sees one of us out on the road. Swerves at us, flips us off, etc. My mom has also engaged in some of the same behavior while driving. It most recently happened yesterday evening and they were both in her car acting like angry teenagers while both being in their 70’s.

Didn’t sleep great last night and woke up this morning pissed off and cranky. I’m going thru meno so I often don’t sleep great which is part of how I know that’s not why I’m cranky. At 56yo I’ve been flipped off more than once by better people than them (lol) so why would their behavior bother me? It just feels so …ick. Especially after going long periods of not being confronted with it.

Cat haiku:

Cat stares in mirror
Sees another cat watching
Furiously he attacks