I don’t know man
A couple months ago, I was ghosted by a woman. Her dating app profile showed that she’s looking for a long term relationship, she was 26 yrs old, worked at law firm, and we spoke about metal music and 2000s JRPGs. About a few days in, we were chatting about the relationships and dating culture, I asked what are her standards and expectations for a serious relationship. I asked just to see if our values and wants from a relationship were aligned… and she ghosted me and my text bubbles went from blue to green, so I was also blocked.
Usually, I would beat myself over it and mentally replay everything that happened to overanalyze what went wrong. But this time, it was a sigh of exhaustion and disappointment.
I don’t know how to describe or articulate this feeling, it’s becoming harder to find the incentive or motivation to pursue women if they don’t show enthusiasm and desire over a short period of time. What I mean is that I don’t want to pursue women who has a “passing interest.” I want someone who desires and wants me off-rip. Once, you experience what it’s like to be loved, desired, and prioritized in a woman’s life and lose it… you change the way how you view and approach dating. It’s hard to lower my standards and to justify jumping through hoops and hurdles.