advice for my fiance [26M] and I [26F]
My fiancé (26M) and I (26F) are in a crossroad about what to do for the future and we are just looking for some opinions, hoping others have been in a similar situation and have stated what has worked for them. We are high school sweethearts, he didn’t go to college and is now working an OK job, I’m a nurse at a level 1 trauma center and have been there for 4 years. I went to school local and commuted, we both lived at home until after I graduated then moved out. I have pretty good seniority at my hospital, don’t have to work weekends, take minimal call, minimal holidays and I am happy with my salary. We’re getting married next August locally.
He got a job offer with his current company down in South Carolina, he believes this is the best offer he can get without a college degree and he isn’t interested in going to college. I am stuck in my hospital contract until next August so I am tied here. We are trying to decide if he should move without me for a year, in a year from now we decide if we should move down to South Carolina together or back to New Jersey together.
We have two dogs together, our lease is up in August and we already informed them we would not resign, the plan was to save for our wedding and buy a house right after the wedding. We are worried if he takes this job if we will even be able to be a house after we are married. He has some credit card debt, the plan was to move home so he can pay off his credit card, car, and then save for a house. Now we aren’t sure what to do since he is getting an offer. It is still less than what i make annually, and if I move it seems like i would be taking a pa ay cut, and i am worried all my work with the hospital im at now would go down the drain (lowest on seniority pole…)
Really just looking for different options, we have both made long pro and con lists but cannot decide what to do