Update: Three Years Later, Our Marriage Is Stronger After Untangling Family Enmeshment
I’ve followed this community on and off for the past few years.
I remember my last post here included a lot of comments with bleak stories from spouses dealing with enmeshed partners.
I wanted to come back and share a different kind of update—more of a win and some encouragement.
After 3 years of couples therapy and uncertainty about our marriage, we’ve reached a place where things finally feel like the worst is behind us.
A big part of that has been my husband doing genuinely difficult work in therapy—facing painful truths about his family/how they were affecting our relationship, and working to change long-standing patterns.
All of this is just to say: I know not every situation turns out this way and not every relationship is salvageable. But I do think that when there’s willingness, insight, and sustained effort— from the person coming out of an enmeshed family and their partner—real change and healing are possible.