u/Nyx_Light_666

I've noticed emotional neglect can also be a double-edged sword combined with a family who pretends everything is fine and well, covering up things that seem bad and not accepting the state of the matter by fact

All it is is just to prolong an inevitable crash, as the family becomes so fake, that you can see how artificial everything seems

It's like a weird, almost uncanny feeling. I don't know how else to describe it

Honestly it kind of fucks you up mentally since you tend to normalize that way of thinking and just kind of pretend everything is fine to others when you're clearly struggling, and it ain't healthy

The things people learn in these kinds of environments as they grow up, internalizing their own emotions and feelings, feeling like you have to be independent all the time and never able to ask for help or make mistakes, all while pushing problems aside to appear functional and well

Anyone else dealing with something similar?

In her words, because I was so quiet and reserved, she just thought that's what I needed and left me alone for years without ever checking up on me or doing anything for me

Even after a move at 11 that caused me to leave my dad and friends behind?? Being forced without considering my feelings to move to a different country??

Did she not think to check up on me at all? Apparently it's because I was always quiet and not because I was obviously distressed

Am I really in the wrong here? I still can't believe that's the excuse she gave me, I don't know