how do i get over my (m24) girlfriends (f22) past with her friend
Recently my gf told me that she had hooked up with her girl best friend two years ago, before she met me. She said she regrets it a lot , and finds it disgusting and wouldn't do it again. It happened after they had a night drinking and they had a sleepover after, and she said she doesn't even know how it happened. She never wanted to bring it up again with anyone, even the friend, but apparently her friend told someone , so my gf wanted to make sure she's the one that tells me.
I understand that people can experiment with their sexuality, but I've just struggled to accept that it was with her friend, and I've been having intrusive thoughts. They continued to stay best friends after it happened and still had sleep overs and done everything together.I cant help but wonder if it happened more than once, and if they were more than best friends.
Ever since she told me that it happened, she hasn't really talked to her best friend as much, and they didn't hang out much and had no sleepovers since.
Honestly, I really don't think she did anything with her friend while dating me. Even though they would still see each other a lot before my gf told me about them hooking up before
If the truth is that they only done it once, I could tolerate their friendship to stay the same, and her going to her house and seeing her like normal and having sleepovers. But if it happened multiple times I just feel like I won't be able to get past that and be comfortable with them still being best friends.
I'm just trying my best to process this and I don't really know how to talk to my gf about this. My girlfriend said she would do anything to keep me and she even said she would stop talking to her best friend if she had to to keep me, but I don't want her to have to make a decision like that. We love each other a lot and have a great relationship, but this has been bogging my mind for so long, and I've tried taking advice like "get over it", "stop thinking about the past", etc. But it really hasn't helped. I truly have been a good boyfriend and haven't done anything bad, but I'm just dealing with these thoughts that are really hard to deal with, and I've just kept it inside because I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone in my life about it.