My mother won’t stop behaviors that make it worse
To give a little back story my mom had a brain aneurysm in November 2024 in the bathroom of our apartment. I found her on the toilet foam coming out the side of her mouth I called the ambulance, The doctors told her she was very lucky to make it out of surgery alive. She has had a stroke in the hospital and almost lost her life in surgery . The doctors told her not to smoke or drink due to the fact she has another aneurysm lying on the part where your brain and nerves connect, and at anytime due to those activities causing irritation it can burst. As a result she can end up dead or paralyzed. Ever since my mom got out of the hospital she has been back to partying smoking and drinking. She has had several seizures, 3 including the one she had tonight with me and I don’t even know how many when she is outside with her “friends”.
I guess I’m writing this to ask any advice on how to deal with someone you love that won’t stop hurting themselves even when knowing the things they do is bad for them. I am emotionally tired and traumatized seeing my mom in that state. I am terrified thinking about the possibility that she will end up dead just because she won’t stop drinking/smoking