Should I move out or am I too type A?
This will be a little long, but I’ll try to not over explain!! For context, my roommate and I are both 19 and living in a non traditional renting situation. Her mother is the landlord and we have no signed lease (I am free to leave) and she is also my best friend.
Last school year, we dormed together and her mental health took a bad turn. She ended up dropping out before we moved into the house, but she was seeking mental health treatment. She got a bipolar diagnosis and things briefly improved as she started meds. Long story short, she cannot keep a job, be consistent with meds, clean her areas unless I beg her, and refuses to not live in the living room instead of her bedroom. I love being in a house and having so much space but she is constantly having breakdowns and it’s causing me so much stress I had to go back to therapy and I’m losing my appetite. We had a back and forth and about it and she was hyperventilating and telling me that she’s trying (I’ve heard this for a year) and snapped at me that she’s living with the hardest mental disorder. Okay well I think she’s giving me one too.
Should I keep my lucky (CHEAP) renting situation but be depressed OR move out and risk loosing my best friend?? I know I can be picky about cleaning but I’ve always split things evenly and I’m working 8hr days and in school while she sits on the couch and says she can’t clean past 30 mins. THEN she deep cleans the entire house after I say I may move out. Now I feel a little crazy.