u/OddMany7

Even the good Asian parents can still have bad habits, which translate over to their kids. This is mainly due to cultural differences whereby a kid may be taught something that is "normal" to their culture but is considered taboo in Western culture.

What are some bad habits that you unfortunately developed that affected your daily life in the real world; as a result of Asian parenting?

I don't know if that's the case for anyone else but here's my story.

For many years, my parents were bad at actively listening. When I was younger, they didn't try to listen. As I got older, they started to make an effort to listen, which is a nice improvement. But at times, I have to basically repeat myself multiple times to get my point through. It might sound like a language barrier problem but in reality, it seems like whether it's English or mothertongue, they don't seem to fully get the point until I repeat or clarify. Luckily, I was able to tolerate it because it was only a minor pet peeve and to a family member, repeating yourself isn't a problem.

But unfortunately, this became a bad habit; so much so that it cost my job, which is exactly why I started to question myself. I quit a call center job for another because the previous company I worked for didn't give me the proper tools needed to be a good customer service representative. Customers would be mad (completely understandable) but the tools I was given were incapable of solving 90% of their issues. This is bad company practice. I joined my new job a month ago and I was really excited. I liked it when I was able to actually provide some meaningful information to customers when they called. However, the amount of responsibilities needed was a huge jump compared to my last one. This job required navigating through a really complicated system. At first, I thought it was due to the complexity of navigating. That was until one of the trainers told me that I was just bad at actively listening. I would make notes but I would still miss parts of the point at times. And then I would inadvertently repeat my points to customers because that was a stupid habit I picked up from my parents inability to actively listen.

I was fired recently and I started to really self-reflect on this. WHY am I such a bad active listener and WHY have I developed such a bad habit of repeating myself too much or spitting out too much detail like this post lol? Because my parents effectively molded me into this. I don't like blaming Asian parents for everything but boy this is some bad habit I developed all because my parents just weren't good listeners.

Did anyone else's parents cause this to you? Where they weren't good listeners or communicators (even in same-language) to the point where you became terrible at this and you had to rewire your brain entirely?

I know it's against the theme of this subreddit and I know a lot of us are traumatized by bad Asian parents. But at times, I wonder to myself, what are some positive things Asian parents did for us? That other non-Asian parents would not have done?

What should we appreciate about Asian parents that non-Asian parents would not match us at?

How does this have anything to do with Asian parent stories? Well, it seems like sometimes when me or my family members get sick, my parents would steam some vinegar and walk around the house with it, likely to disinfect the airborne pathogens.

I hear this is something Asian parents did traditionally and brought it over to the west.

Is this a myth or fact?