Stalker ex advice, scared for safety
I’ve been with my partner for 1.5 years. He was with his ex for 10 years, married for 5, and their relationship was finalized well before he and I met. Despite this, his ex has been harassing me since we started dating.
The harassment began with abusive emails and texts, which resulted in me obtaining a restraining order. I’m talking multiple fake numbers, emails, Snapchat accounts, sending paragraphs of nasty and rude comments.she has even stated she is going to slit my throat which was largely how I got my restraining order. She also sent me X videos from years ago of her and my partner to illicit anger. It worked. since having the restraining order the direct contact has slowed, she hasn’t stopped. She is now posting my photo in “Are We Dating the Same Guy/Woman” Facebook groups, claiming she is looking for “dirt” on me. Because these groups are anonymous, I cannot definitively prove it is her to law enforcement.she has also created and spread false rumors of me having drug issues which are totally and completely fabricated.
IAfter 18 months, she is still fixated on our relationship. We are now engaged, and her behavior is casting a shadow over what should be a happy time.
She is clearly severely mentally unstable, and there are children involved in their co-parenting arrangement, which complicates things significantly. I’m also worried she will snap and commit a serious crime…We also don't have the funds for a major legal battle for full custody.
Has anyone dealt with a high-conflict ex who uses social media "doxing" or smear campaigns to continue harassment? How do you effectively ignore or mitigate this without letting it consume your life? Any advice on documenting this behavior or handling the Facebook aspect would be appreciated!