And what were their responses?
Edit: I'm actually just not. Because we have mutual friends and then she can go around and tell everyone that I diagnosed her with narcissistic traits lmao (I'm almost a licensed psychotherapist too). If someone asks me why we're not friends I'll just say she's not nice and if we get close then they can learn the truth.
One of the struggles I have is wanting everyone to hear my experience and exposing this person for who they are behind closed doors. He is one of those guys that gets every girl and people literally worship him. It pisses me off that he is spreading rumors that I’m crazy and unstable and he’s just this innocent guy who gets targeted by crazy girls. I want to scream it from the rooftops but nothing works. He has sexually assaulted me and punched me before. It got to a point where it was so toxic we had physical fights because he triggered me so much that I snapped. I want to reach a point where I don’t care what people think of him but I just can’t. I just want everyone to “see” what I went through and know the truth.
that fucking piece of shit always pretends to cleans my fucking room every time im not around. now my phone is damaged after she cleaned it what the fuck am i supposed to do.
I'm new here and I come to seek help and share my traumatic and painful experience with an NP, after 11 months of relationship and in the last month the fights, gasligthing, betrayals, attacks of fury and many humiliations have intensified, I decided to move away. I noticed the red flags right from the start, my intuition also screamed and I didn't hear it. I didn't understand deeply about the subject in the 4 month of relationship I started to study about it and I got scared when I discovered how they work in depth, in the first discard I really accepted the situation and disappeared with
15 days he did the hoovering and I fell. I was pushing the relationship by leaps and bounds and as I said in the last month everything intensified after another fight plus silent treatment and total disappearance, already preparing the new victim being with me. It started to leave clues for me to find, more gasligthing and triangulation. At a certain moment, given the exhaustion is cognitive dissonance, I had thoughts that I'm not proud of for thinking, am I this horrible person and do I deserve this treatment? So after the 15 days he came back again and tried a new hoovering with more promises of changes and that would now be different. When I made a request to him for me to return and it was an issue that I asked to be resolved for months I had a negative, so I saw that nothing would change there, so I said my first no of the relationship in 11 months, yes the first not in 11 months. Result? On the same day I post with the ex to humiliate me. I haven't seen him for 45 days and I haven't spoken for 20 I believe that after the final blow he will never appear again. Going from heaven to hell with the same person is too sad, giving your love to someone who doesn't feel love is painful. Being humiliated is discarded one of the experiences I will never forget in my life. I'll never be the same again. If anyone has a word of comfort for me. Why do they humiliate us until we bleed?
I am about 7 months out from a narcissistic break up (I was discarded after 10 months) I feel like I finally have started to try talking to new people and am somewhat open to the idea of MAYBE dating again...The problem is I feel so gun shy. I feel like I'll miss the signs again or some sort of switch will flip eventually if something ever feels that "nice" again... I feel more like myself than I did even a few months ago after a lot of realizations about who she was as a person but I just really disliked not being able to trust my own reality after the break up. Is it possibly to love and trust "normally" again or are these negative thoughts or scars just always keeping people from opening up as deeply?
I’m pregnant, and my husband and I have been having ongoing problems about money and his financial responsibilities. I stopped giving him money, and after that he became emotionally distant. I started wondering whether the relationship had been based partly on what I could provide financially, because even when I offered money again, he still seemed cold.
During one argument, I called him MF once. That became a major focus, and he stopped speaking to me for about a month.
We eventually reconciled and decided to try again, but he still acts cold and distant. It feels like we made up on the surface, but nothing has really been repaired. I begged, apologised, chased asked him to be back to normal he said his heart if off and he isnt sure can be normal or not LOL
He has been giving me silent treatment and he is full
Blown covert Narc. Now i have decided to give him silent treatment back. Any guesses how giving back silent treatment works on narcs.
Has anyone ever seen the smirk in a romantic relationship where you were first driven to despair and had no choice but to snap—and then you get laughed at? A very quick smile where you can just see that it's genuinely unhealthy.
I saw it 2 times in 8 years living with her.
Sono riuscita a lasciare il mio ex narcisista dopo due sofferti anni di relazione che mi hanno tolto praticamente tutto. Mi sento vuota, senza obiettivi né speranze. Credevo che uscire da quella relazione così tossica mi avrebbe ridato quel soffio vitale che si stava spegnendo, ma dopo 5 mesi sento che tutto è in caduta libera dentro di me. È come se tutti gli sforzi impegnati per quella persona e per salvare la relazione mi avessero privata di ogni energia. Quando si ricomincia a vivere davvero? Quando si smette di pensare con malata nostalgia a quella persona che ci ha devastato completamente? Si può superare davvero? Si torna davvero a fidarsi delle persone e ad amare ed essere amati in modo sano?
My narc ex pulled insane crap on me last year after 5 years of COMPLETE AND UTTER DEVOTION TO HIM! All I got was B.S. lies to his police friends, an injunction (he fabricated the video to say I violated). The police broke 4 bones in my foot keeping it slammed in the door for 10 minutes while calmly speaking with him as he smirked at me writhing in pain (the damage is now permanent and inoperable!) My case was dragged out for OVER A YEAR! I HAVE PHOTO EVIDENCE OF HIM PHYSICALLY ABUSING ME, BUT because I am a 53 yof and he's a 69 Yom republican and less than 50% owner of a crappie business HE IS CONSIDERED THE VICTIM? I've overcome a heroin/Crack cocaine addiction, growing up without a father with an alcoholic and abusive mother. Shipped away at 12 because she "wanted a life" now,my family won't speak with me and I am PETRIFIED TO LEAVE MY OWN HOME BECAUSE MY EX MANUFACTURES INCIDENTS AND I AM HELPLESS! TO TOP IT OFF, I haven't contacted him in over a year, the courts fired 6 prosecutors but now after an entire year they're willing to believe his lies (he committed perjury) he has a lengthy violence record, and I have nothing but I get 12 months of probation, today???? Not to mention that my doctor just found spots on my lungs and I have no clue what, if any future I even have left! What am I supposed to do? I lost my beloved husband in 2020 and this Ass manipulated his way into my life! Why am I left with nothing? I just want to know?
here is an exhaustive list of the bizarre behavior of my mother in law, who is also a licensed therapist and that makes her even more difficult to deal with. a bit of context: i’ve been in this family for 7 years, but this year it’s gotten especially bad as i lived with her for 4 months while my husband was gone for work. (i’m no longer living there). here’s the list:
-repeats the same stories over and over throughout the years (narcissistic monologue) about her struggles and scarifies. every story she is the victim and someone else is the villain.
-trauma dumping to the point she would follow me around talking about all the traumatic things her parents did to her
-she only works two days a week but makes sure everyone knows she is a “trauma therapist and it’s extremely exhausting work” (her words). she comes home and complains about how difficult her cases are and even gives personal details about her sessions, framing herself as a hero for being there for these people and helping them.
-she copies me, as in she copies my eating habits, or what i buy, or how i do my nails
-when i was trying to lose weight she kept outrageous amounts of junk food on the kitchen counter. boxes of muffins, bags of chips, candies and sodas for me to look at and when they would get even a little bit low she would immediately restock. (i’m talking like…4 boxes of muffins, 4 bags of chips, 10 bottles of wine, 6 boxes of soda…like OUTRAGEOUS amounts of junk food. it was almost comical.)
-lives vicariously through her daughter
-would compare her new car to my new car and made sure to subtly point out the features hers had and mine didn’t
-triangulates and tries to control the family narrative
-preferred form of “communication” is being passive aggressive
-will go above and beyond for every one even if no one asks her to, because she must maintain her appearance of doing the most. THEN will hold it over someone’s head later.
-FIL does everything he can to appease her, but when he’s not around SHE calls HIM narcissistic, abusive, and talks about everything he’s ever done wrong. she’s even said things about him i can’t even bring myself to repeat.
-holds onto grudges and past hurts because if she were to truly forgive and move on she could no longer play the victim card, and she does not know who she is if she cannot be the victim.
-my husband sounds drained after he gets off the phone with her almost like she sucked the life from him
-no one is allowed to be frustrated and angry in her presence
-she has projected her victim mentality onto all her children and now all of them are stunted in one way or another. she has made sure they know when they are wronged or when someone treats them unfairly, and then she paints herself as the only person who treats them right or the only person who understands them. she must be their hero.
-everything is a subtle competition to her
-when i tried to explain to her how her behavior toward me is not right and how she hurt me she acted aloof, uninterested almost like i was boring her. then she said im the unkind one.
-when i call her out she plays the victim card and tells me i am just looking for someone to be angry at, that i am controlling or unkind.
the last one is very recent as she took the most vulnerable time in my life (her son CHEATED on me) and she made it about herself, and began shifting blame onto me. i called her out for it and told her to knock it off, and now i am labeled the “unsafe” and “angry” DIL. like i seriously cannot make this up.
but i digress..anyone else deal with someone similar?? anyone have advice? it’s all so bizarre!! 😅😅