Woman VS. Marriage
The Marriage Benefit Imbalance
I see young couples all the time. It makes me happy that they are content with themselves to be able to add another person into their lives, but at the same time it makes me wonder how many experiences they will miss in life just because one of them gets jealous or because they subconsciously feel guilty for having fun without their partner.
A lot of people who are single yearn to be in love and find their "soulmate," but I've never understood why. Being single and alone is the most free anyone could be. You can go anywhere and do anything all on your own time. You could party all night long and make new friends who are the opposite sex without having to worry about the trusting approval of your significant other. I can't think of anything more refreshing than being able to live your own life without someone else's opinion or jealousy.
In saying that, I would like to pull out some statistics that I have researched online. From the writer Elizabeth Gilbert. She says that married women do not live as long as single women; they do not earn as much money; they are not as happy, as well as being more likely to suffer from addiction than single women; they are more likely to commit suicide; and they are even more likely to die of homicide than single women. All in all, married women report themselves in every single way that you can measure sociological data for wellness as being less content with themselves than single women. Conversely, married men, on the other hand. Outperform single men by such a measure that it is perhaps the healthiest thing a man can do is to get a woman to marry him.
On that note, I will emphasize the "clear" here. The best thing a man can do is to get married to a woman, while the worst thing a woman can do, statistically speaking, is get married to a man. This is shown to happen because of something called a marriage benefit imbalance. Those balances are exactly equal, which means that the percentage of herself that a woman gives to a man she loses and he gains. In simpler words, she is quite literally giving her life to him.
To shift this essay into a positive perspective, let's dive into the romantic and psychological standpoint of marriage. If marriage is so bad for women, then why do they do it? Before I answer, I want to say that I actually don't know. But my idea is that we need a witness to our lives; there are billions of people on the planet, and when we look at it like that, then what does one life ever really mean? But in a marriage… you are promising to care about everything, the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it. All the time. Everyday. You’re saying, "Your life will not go unnoticed, because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness.” - a quote from some movie.
At the end of the day it gives you a life worth living for, and if you’re lucky, you can achieve what some may say is “the greatest purpose in life": a child. One of your own flesh and blood, or one that you opened your doors and arms to.