r/marriagefree

I aware gamophobia been bugging some people who had it developed after their maturity. In my situation, I have gamophobia since 5. Openly announcing my hatred towards marriage since 5 too but adults been telling me I might be the earliest to get married just because I oppose it the hardest. Doesn't dim down that hatred and my bias against marriage. Every observation kinda proves my point on why marriage is a shit idea. My kind of gamophobia is like homophobia, except I'm an ally and I'm just a hater to all sorts of humanly marriage ceremonies.

Now I am 26 and still has no human partner. Sister got married years ago and instead of getting nostalgia and wanting to get married, I hate it even harder. The hell all those expenses for??? Besides if I can have a marriage scene for free in my dreams while my expenses can used on food and gaming, why the hell I need to spend all those for a non-serious wedding ceremony. Marriage in this economy???? I can buy a cheaper set of hanfu out there than that heavy wedding gowns with the expenses I saved up.

For those who still wish to get married but can't due to gamophobia, get therapies and seek professionals.

For those who kinda glad with gamophobia as me, stay single amongst the humans and happily so. And hold your boundaries against those nosy mfers who just can't stay in their lane nor stop bugging us just because marriage ain't an option for us and they try to Uno reverse that. I got cancel cards on my sleeves.

It's just one thing, people with gamophobia don't try bugging others who wanna get married. Y'all wasting their time when they wanna get married. You don't want to get married, that's on you. If you want to get married but the phobia gets in the way, get therapy and a partner who can support you through it. Remember validate your partners, they deserves it after putting on your gamophobia when they can choose someone else. They really love you to support you through the odds.

I would never and that's why I'm single😅

As a woman with a mother just like any other habesha (Ethiopian) "show me the honour of your marriage" has always been something I heard often. And apart from that, there was a time when marriage seemed like the final destination if not the most important.

But the crazy thing is I genuinely was not capable of imagining life without possibly getting married someday and having kids. It was just not an option in my mind. The irritation of seeing people in failed or abusive marriages advocating for women to get married quick was always there. I used to come up with principles in my mind of how I'd want my partner to treat me and I'd create my boundaries because for me marriage was inevitable. Better to prepare for the impact.

Now, a decade later it slowly dawned on me that I don't have to if I didn't want to. Especially not at a young age either and certainly not just to settle down. Suddenly I realized that it was not a make or break situation, you could do it if you meet someone who has the same values, and someone who makes a great partner but if not you don't have to settle for something less... You could just live.

It's also pretty scary what parents will have you do just for the sake of their happiness and it's even scarier to dissect that tendency in you willing to go the extra mile to keep them happy. There's a stigma towards unmarried women, there are names called and assumptions made when you decide to take control of your life. But at the end of the day, it is still your life and it's worth all the pain to keep it that way.

I (23m) have never been in a relationship and/or done a fling before in my life. I’m unsure how to feel about this. I don’t necessarily want a relationship but part of it bothers me. I feel like it’s because everyone my age is in a relationship or married right now. Currently pursuing my undergrad and wanting to get into nursing school so my life is very pre occupied. I want myself for once and I don’t come from the healthiest home either. An ‘I love you’ at home feels weird and empty and at this point I’m just trying to figure things out by myself. Does anyone have any advice on this?

32M London….it’s that time, I need to settle down. Everyone’s getting married and having kids. I just want to find my ride or die so we can go on adventures and travel the world together. They just need to be chill, likes to go to the gym and would be cool if she smokes a little 🍃

Why is it that men without stable careers/income insist on getting married and having children when they cannot afford a home (or if they do, they struggle to keep up with mortgage payments), then insist on procreating and bringing children into this world when they are struggling financially, and then on top of that, make their wives stay-at-home mothers to care for the children they fail to adequately provide for?

Currently I am single and too broke to move out of my parents house

One of the things that is absurd in my opinion is how much weddings cost honestly your better off using that money to take a year long staycation at your house or investing the money into income generating assets

I don’t have a spare 36,000 dollars just sitting around and even if I did I would have better things to spend money on anyways

What’s even the point of a wedding cause all I see is wasting thousands of dollars for a one day church party to seek the approval of people whose opinions you don’t care about

There is no other area of our personal lives where we’re expected to consult with a bunch of random people just because the share the same dna you do

I see zero need to announce any future relationship I may have as a bisexual person to the whole world

Honestly, the reason I’m married is because I couldn’t survive with the men I was surrounded by they were instable partners I would not have been able to get anything done with them in my life so I was content to just be marriage free

Is being marriage free more about survival or social sufficiency

I (25M) have had these thoughts for months now and I think I have come to the conclusion that marriage is pointless. Attachment to another human can be the root of joy or absolute misery; the latter is much more likely. Nowadays, divorce rates are quite high and people have unreasonable standards. I call this: love that is too conditional. Men usually want to have their sexual needs met while women usually want a certain lifestyle, etc, and will quickly abandon their partner for the better option. Same goes for men, and I've seen it first hand, if their needs aren't being met, they will cheat and cause hurt. I have seen my own mother cry countless times over the past 5-10 years over this. This is why I believe women should NEVER EVER depend on a man and vice versa.

Honestly, every single benefit you get from marriage can be achieved without a contract involving the government. Kids? You can have them without commitment. Love? You can love someone without marriage or being attached. I have read a post that says: If you truly love someone, then you're better off being their friend and I absolutely agree. I believe platonic friendships are better than relationships.

In the country I live in, wedding and all other marriage related expenses would usually run 100k - 200k USD or even more. I have seen a bunch of my co-workers be in debt because of an extravagant wedding and them conforming to society and the pressure. I do not want to be in their position. I will be miserable, not to mention the risk of divorce. Your partner can quickly abandon you if they feel like it. Could be a specific ick etc.

This is why I think I will never get married in my lifetime and I am happy the way I am right now; being stress free and living my life to the fullest. I am also not compatible with the society of the country I live in. On top of that, the whole process of getting to know someone and getting through the talking stage is exhausting to me.

Humans are absolutely selfish.

It’s so tough to start over when you imagined this fairy tale to transpire and suddenly everything comes crashing the almosts become stupidly impossible the words that u believed in become so hauntingly empty it scares you but one has to keep their face held high to keep your tears in and to let your family know u r doing okay and its such a difficult time the days go by it feels like years have gone by difficult times are so tough to get through i only hope everyone who is going through a tough phase makes it through i know the soul would be weathered but through those cracks you’ll illuminate so much life so much light that it’ll shock u in a good way

Marriage is the scariest thing to even think of. I have seen women in my neighborhood getting abused by their husbands every single day. I asked my male friend what his body count is he told me it's 4 . And when he asked mine , I told him 1. He replied with saying that's wrong that he also told me in his community if the husband found his wife is not a virgin husband will kill his wife. I also asked him Will you do the same ? And he answered with yes even tho his body count is already 4.

Also I have seen the emotional abuse, money abuse and other kind of abuse not just the physical abuse in the marriages of the women's not just in my family but also in in country.

I have make decision of not getting married . I rather stay single than getting into abusive relationship or marriages . Also the cheating rates and divorce rates are so high nowadays it's kinda exhausting ot even think about a loyal partner.

I am 19yrs old and I will not get married. I had make this decision and I will just focus on my studies nad career.

Some of you may think I am too young for this but in my country and my community man's either they are in 20s or 30s they always look for young women. And I am getting marriage proposes from the man's atleast 5 to 7 yrs older than me for now.

I rather focus on my studies and career. And if my parents continue to force me to look after marriage I am gonna run away. I can't stay in same household with them. Cause they has patriarchal beliefs .

Throwing aside hormonal instincts, could future “families” work like self-help groups? Single people or parents team up to share advice on childcare, repairs, finances, and daily problems — instead of relying on one partner who may create more emotional drain than constructive help.
Would this kind of mutual-aid structure be more stable and efficient?

Unpopular Opinion:

I feel like the days aren't far away when more and more people will choose not to get married at all.

Relationships today seem more complicated than ever. People are focusing on careers, financial stability, personal freedom, and self-growth. Many have seen failed marriages around them and are questioning whether marriage is even necessary to be happy.

Love isn't disappearing, but the idea that everyone needs to get married might be.

I wouldn't be surprised if, in the future, staying single or being in a long-term relationship without marriage becomes just as common as marriage itself.

Maybe people aren't afraid of commitment.

Maybe they're just redefining what commitment looks like.

What's your take? 🤔

This is only for single folks.

If you are happily married please scroll past.

Also please add more reasons in the comments to remind me to never get married.

Here it goes:

1. I like being by myself

2)I don't want to get into an abusive relationship

3. marriage is one of the few things in life that is not warranted

4. I don't want to be cheated on

5)I am way too focused on my career

6. Money is a priority for me and I want to spend it without feeling guilty

7. I don't like to be constantly criticised and belittled

8)I don't want to be coerced into r*pe

9)I don't want to be forced into having kids

10. I don't want a man to put his hands on me

11. I work alot so I don't have time to put into a relationship

12)I am going to spend the next decade into paying for my siblings education

13)I want to take care of my parents and provide a lot of luxuries to them

14. The cycle of toxicity that has been faced by my previous generation ends with me

15)I no longer have desire to bond with a new sets of in-laws and relatives

16)I have a lot of medical health issues that seems selfish to put on someone

17. When I come home from a hard day at work, all I wanna do is rest not to entertain someone

18)I like to keep my social circle small

19)I have a lot of trauma of childhood that is gonna take time to heal

20. I don't want to put my happiness on hold because it has taken a long time to achieve it.

I don't want to marry reason... Mentally tortured since childhood, lots of trauma almost dead soul can't love anyone. I want to love but no emotions in me i don't wanna ruin someone's daughter's life .. but this fcking society how to avoid marriage in india.... I am belonging from upper middle class basically rich dad has buisness running factory in metropolitan town..... In whole khandan & relatives my parents are very respected.... They will never convince for no marriage even nowadays they plans and invite people as return in my wedding wtf guys tell me ideal way so that I can escape and don't want to create mess

Hi guys I’m 28 M from a traditional Indian family. I am gay and I know I cannot get married to a woman and ruin her life. I also know I cannot date or get married to a man due to my family. My question is how do I find meaning/purpose in life without a partner or children? I’m coming to terms with this reality slowly as I see my friends and cousins get married and live the conventional life.

Going on Instagram makes me nervous and breakdown-ish realising I can’t have what others have. I know there’s several people who choose to be marriage free and child free but the conventional thinking of my upbringing makes me feel my life has no meaning or purpose without a partner or children. How do I change that? What do you guys do to make peace with your life?

Thank you!!