u/Arcabyte

I (25M) have had these thoughts for months now and I think I have come to the conclusion that marriage is pointless. Attachment to another human can be the root of joy or absolute misery; the latter is much more likely. Nowadays, divorce rates are quite high and people have unreasonable standards. I call this: love that is too conditional. Men usually want to have their sexual needs met while women usually want a certain lifestyle, etc, and will quickly abandon their partner for the better option. Same goes for men, and I've seen it first hand, if their needs aren't being met, they will cheat and cause hurt. I have seen my own mother cry countless times over the past 5-10 years over this. This is why I believe women should NEVER EVER depend on a man and vice versa.

Honestly, every single benefit you get from marriage can be achieved without a contract involving the government. Kids? You can have them without commitment. Love? You can love someone without marriage or being attached. I have read a post that says: If you truly love someone, then you're better off being their friend and I absolutely agree. I believe platonic friendships are better than relationships.

In the country I live in, wedding and all other marriage related expenses would usually run 100k - 200k USD or even more. I have seen a bunch of my co-workers be in debt because of an extravagant wedding and them conforming to society and the pressure. I do not want to be in their position. I will be miserable, not to mention the risk of divorce. Your partner can quickly abandon you if they feel like it. Could be a specific ick etc.

This is why I think I will never get married in my lifetime and I am happy the way I am right now; being stress free and living my life to the fullest. I am also not compatible with the society of the country I live in. On top of that, the whole process of getting to know someone and getting through the talking stage is exhausting to me.

Humans are absolutely selfish.

I am genuinely exhausted. I don’t want to talk or go through getting to know someone all over again. Traditional marriage isn’t an option for me since our society in the gulf demands 100k to 200k usd to get married and I am not culturally compatible nor will I conform. I give up. I’m tired. I’ll accept being single and die with a bunch of cats.

Rant over.

I (25M) have been living the same day on repeat for the past 2 years since I got employed. On paper, it seems like I am thriving. I work a boring government job with insane benefits that pays me 6 figures. Since I live in a low cost of living country, I can save and invest aggressively; yet my life is starting to feel too predictable and boring. I often find myself driving past the university where I studied, which is reminiscent of a time when I was experiencing new things. I honestly feel like my life has plateaued and I am only 25.

It's not like I am not trying. I engage with my hobbies like video editing, gym, traveling, and reading. I even plan on starting my own business once I reach a financial position where I can take risks. What makes it worse is that my growing investment portfolio does make me feel complacent. I often feel soulless during my daily commute.

I know this might come off as entitled; I am grateful, but I can't help but feel this way. Has anyone felt this way and pushed through it?

Yesterday, I (25M) was sitting with myself as usual, overthinking about all the good and the bad things that I did in life and how I am developing mentally as I age and choosing to be better in general, like treating people with kindness, being a better brother to my little sister, etc. I started to develop empathy towards those who seem like bad people on the surface. Now when I see someone who has a very disliked personality (like stinginess, narcissism, lacking empathy, or whatever it may be), the first thought that comes to mind is: What type of environment were they raised in? Have they been through trauma?

For example, someone might lack the ability to be a caring parent and show their kids affection like hugging them, etc., but they were raised in a family where hugging and comforting people is not normal, so they were never taught how to be someone who cares.

This has made me not blame people and hate them as much as I used to, since their actions are a result of their environment.

With that being said, I think understanding people in that way is not the same as accepting their harmful behavior. I feel like I can't necessarily hate people for how they are, but i just won't let it affect me.

So I'm considering a crazy solo trip around our little blue planet. I'm plan on taking 40 days off and doing a full lap around the world. eastward from Qatar, through Asia, across to the US, then back to Qatar. I'm 25, no kids, no debt, and I figured I want to do something like this while I am young. I've been to these countries before except for China and South Korea. I also have friends who live in Houston and relatives in NYC that i would love to visit again.

Here's the rough plan (i might change it):

- Beijing & Shanghai, China - 8 days

- Seoul, South Korea - 5 days

- Tokyo & Kyoto, Japan - 10 days

- Los Angeles & San Francisco, California - 5 days

- Houston, Texas - 5 days

- New York City - 7 days

- Fly to Doha

Some questions that i have before actually booking:

Is 40 days enough or will I still feel rushed?

Is the routing sensible? Does this make sense or is there a smarter order?

Japan gets 10 days is that enough? I want Tokyo, Kyoto, and ideally Osaka.

Budget check - I've seen estimates of $6k–$9k USD for mid-range. Is this rlly enough for a 40 day trip? I do not want to spend a lot. if not necessary.

For the older ppl here: What's the one thing you'd tell your 25 year old self before a trip like this?

I know I'll probably come back exhausted. But I also know that at 25, with no major obligations, this is exactly the kind of thing I'll regret not doing. Just want to make sure I'm not making any obvious mistakes before I book the flights. The trip would probably take place around December and i want to plan it well.

I keep seeing posts on Twitter, Instagram lately that would always say the same thing. Avoid dating nurses. Ofc these posts will include flight attendants etc, but I’ve noticed that nurses are always included in these posts. And it’s not just one post. I’ve seen a lot.

I'm honestly just trying to understand where this comes from. Is it based on real patterns people have observed? Is it a profession-wide stereotype that's unfair to a whole group of people? Or is there something specific about the lifestyle (night shifts, high-stress work, close coworker dynamics) that makes relationships harder?

I’m not rlly trying to bash anyone here as I do have a lot of respect for health workers. I just want to know why this keeps coming up on my timeline every few days. Has anyone in here dated a RN? What do you think actually drives this stereotype?

I keep seeing posts on Twitter, Instagram lately that would always say the same thing. Avoid dating nurses. Ofc these posts will include flight attendants etc, but I’ve noticed that nurses are always included in these posts. And it’s not just one post. I’ve seen a lot.

I'm honestly just trying to understand where this comes from. Is it based on real patterns people have observed? Is it a profession-wide stereotype that's unfair to a whole group of people? Or is there something specific about the lifestyle (night shifts, high-stress work, close coworker dynamics) that makes relationships harder?

I’m not rlly trying to bash anyone here as I do have a lot of respect for health workers. I just want to know why this keeps coming up on my timeline every few days. Has anyone in here dated a RN? What do you think actually drives this stereotype?