Hey guys. I accidentally forgot to rinse my hands before I fed my axolotl. My dog had just licked my hand a bunch of times but it wasn’t wet or anything. I’m so pissed at myself and wondering what I need to look out for? I did a 25% water change right before. I didn’t touch the axolotl but did dunk my hand in for a second.
On Mother’s Day, we were with our mom friend and her 16 year old son. I asked both boys what they loved about their moms. Our ten year old responded with “She’s funny and I like her big butt.” He brought it up again later, too. This is extremely concerning to me. I’ve read stories on here about teenage sons having sexual feelings for their mothers and one even touching her in her sleep. Oedipus complex stuff.
Another problem that I’ve been talking about with my partner is how she shouldn’t cuddle him to sleep every night at this age. It was a big deal to get her to leave before he falls asleep. She still cuddles him with the light off. I have to basically fight with her not to stay with him. He cries and says “Don’t go.” And once he said he’d “rather die than her leave him right now.”
I don’t have any kids myself and I’m wondering what’s normal.
For context, he has some medical issues as well as ADHD. His dad is a fine guy, just pretty unsupportive and has been kind of absent in the past. He talks with him though and they have a good relationship. Our son respects him far more than us.
He also stole $50 from me recently which is a completely different problem.
Should I be concerned about their weird relationship? Is this normal? Should I run?
She has heard my concerns and is starting to transition to shorter bedtime routines, but even last night she cuddled him in the dark after he said the weird thing. She keeps telling me he’s “trying to be funny.” I think they have too close of a relationship. He struggles with emotional regulation, and I feel that she often regulates him herself. She still lets him in the bathroom while she pees and changes her clothes with him around. I don’t want his relationships to be strained and I definitely don’t want him to be a clingy mommy’s boy his whole life who might end up being sexually attracted to her. He doesn’t really have any friends and struggles with impulsivity as well. I’m just concerned and I don’t want my whole life to be part of some weird situation I have no control over. I’m not his parent, I can’t change his upbringing, and I’m not trying to be the disciplinarian and become the evil stepparent. I will say that I would not have co-slept past age 4).
Please someone ease my mind. I love my partner and we have an amazing relationship. Tell me he’s not going to turn into some creep.