Dose this mean what I think it does?
Ok, so today I went to visit my grandma today at her senior living community and while I was on my way over to her house I was stopped by an older guy who asked me a question. When I ask him to repeat what he said he looked pretty surprised and muttered something under his breath that I think was “oh, you’re a fem.”
I took this to mean he thought I looked like a guy until I opened my mouth and my voice didn’t match, which made me pretty happy. However, I’ve mentioned to a couple of people (one of which was my roommate who’s a trans woman) and they’ve all had a really weird reaction to it.
Am I off base with what I thought this phrase means? Does being called “a fem” mean something I don’t know about? I’m bad at guessing ages but if I had to I would guess this guy was probably in his 80’s, and I’m trying to think why people I tell keep having the same reaction…