r/transftm

I’ve talked to my dad about how when I turn 18, I’d like to start testosterone. His response was to be overprotective and scared of what will happen to me since I live in the U.S. I currently live with him and I haven’t explained the danger of me looking visibly queer and not being stealth compared to looking like a butch lesbian. I think I want to go on testosterone either way, but I’m afraid he’ll be upset since he technically forbid me… Just want some advice as to what to so since I don’t want to upset him, but I have dreamed for YEARS to just go stealth and feel like myself in my body.

Ok, so today I went to visit my grandma today at her senior living community and while I was on my way over to her house I was stopped by an older guy who asked me a question. When I ask him to repeat what he said he looked pretty surprised and muttered something under his breath that I think was “oh, you’re a fem.”

I took this to mean he thought I looked like a guy until I opened my mouth and my voice didn’t match, which made me pretty happy. However, I’ve mentioned to a couple of people (one of which was my roommate who’s a trans woman) and they’ve all had a really weird reaction to it.

Am I off base with what I thought this phrase means? Does being called “a fem” mean something I don’t know about? I’m bad at guessing ages but if I had to I would guess this guy was probably in his 80’s, and I’m trying to think why people I tell keep having the same reaction…

So I was seeing a cis man for about two months and today things went horribly wrong. We weren’t exclusive and were both on Grindr, and with his permission I checked his Grindr DMs to see what kind of people were attracted to him. In one message I saw a photo of myself and when asked who it was he said “some woman I’ve been fucking while her husband is away”. So, he shared my nudes without consent, and then used my body as a stand in for an imaginary woman he was having an imaginary affair with. Obviously I cut things off with him and blocked him but Christ. Wtf is wrong with people, this is fucked up on so many levels.

Looking for a father figure

Hey! I'm a 15 year old trans masc and I have never had a present father figure in my life, as my birth dad got put in prison when I was 3.

I've always really wanted a supportive dad in my life, especially as my mum doesn't like me much or support the fact I'm transgender.

I was advised (after posting in other subreddits about this same thing) to look among older trans men, so that's what I'm doing I guess.

So there's that post..

Sorry if its stupid lol

the binder is in the way of the tattoo area. my dad is coming with me and i’m worried it’s gonna be awkward. am i able to tape? i should be able to tape it in a way where the tape isn’t touching the tattoo area but will be near it and that worries me. i’m freaking out over nothing and im sure it’ll be fine

So basically, he sent me a video that was captioned “when my sister makes me food to eat, but it’s so good i can’t find anything to hate about it” and i said “brother* but thank you” and he put “sister*” and i said “im not arguing with you, i know what i am lol”.

It’s becoming increasingly obvious that he is incredibly transphobic, and does not gaf, but neither do i. Any advice?

For context I’m a 17 yr old ftm. I’ve been on Testosterone for about 3 years now and I follow a pretty strict work out schedule. So I’m not struggling with dysphoria most of the time. But when I talk to my mostly cis friends about their relationships, they have all been sexually active already. I know it seems like a stupid thing to complain about but I am scared of being sexually active with anyone. I feel behind because all of my other friends have had these experiences but I haven’t, it’s not that I don’t want to it’s that the thought of someone else seeing my body in a certain way makes me very dysphoric.

I have had times where I’ve come close to having sex with a woman, man, and another trans male but every time I get scared and make up an excuse to leave the situation. Not only does this feel like it creates tension in any relationships I have but it also feels like I’m keeping this massive secret that I haven’t had sex yet. I’m just scared that the person I’m with will view me as female if they see my body. But also I’m still young and this could very well change in a few years, I meet so many trans people who are sexually active and have great relationships with their bodies.