r/transftm

I am trans immigrant in sa at the moment but unfortunately I feel less of me self , the person who brought me here demands me a lot lot money which I barely have so he say if I don’t give up what her had agreed to, he is going to sell me to human traffickers but can I be saved , I am sorry to all my fellows but if am not saved am going to end my life and sorry . I need people to talk too am alone 🙏🏿🙏🏿

hi guys i live in the uk and really want a packer that i can use to pack but also for intimacy do you have any suggestions? i dont really want anything expensive but open to have a look

My mom has been putting off getting me on T for 3 years because she assumed I was ‘over it.’ I have money to buy it (both T & supplies) & I’m looking for work so I should have a steadier income in maybe a month or so. My mom is very against diy and freaked out on me after I told her if I had to wait another year I’d just buy it myself but I can’t figure it out and none of the sites help?

hello, I’m trying to look completely flat and am not sure how. my binders just aren’t working the same and I don’t know how to get my chest as flat as I need it (I live in Mormon Utah so people misgender you just cus) for reference I have double Ds

So trigger warning ⚠️ : sexual activity

My husband is so amazing, he is a top but occasionally he will indulge me in letting me peg him. He always tells me its okay, but I know its not his favorite. But I really really like feeling like a "real guy" and honestly being more in control turns me on.

Thus brining me to the topic. I want to peg something but I dont want to be selfish and take advantage of my husband. Would it be weird or a waste of money to buy a penetrative toy (flesh light of some sort) to use my strap on? I can't stop thinking about it.

My strap is one that goes inside of me and is held in place with a harness, so it feels good to move in an out bc of where it hits inside of me. But idk if it'd be a waste of money or be weird. Please tell me im not the only one who even has thought about it

So here’s some context: So I’m a young straight identified man, and I know what I like, society just hasn’t caught up yet OBVIOUSLY.

I keep seeing these contradictory ideas about love and acceptance, and then immediately get called a “chaser” just for trying to find someone to make me happy. (Yes I’m looking for a relationship, and yes I have a healthy sex drive, but I’m in no way shallow)

It’s been about 2 years now of looking for myself, after having given up on dating apps, I’ve now completely given up on even trying to approach trans girlies online bc when I do make a completely SFW post asking for help or advice, or describing my attraction, and my dilemma just to get called a PoS CIS chaser and I get told how I don’t deserve to even meet anyone. (I’m fit and attractive and I know how important it is to understand other people but it seems the same benefit of the doubt is NEVER extended to me)

It’s like anything I do is an infringement irregardless of my intentions….

Anyways fast forward an about a year and a half from that point. I’ve just given up completely on finding love but I still want what I want, so I’ve started making NSFW posts trying to basically advertise myself to get attention… which is only really resulted in OFs girls dming me and begging me to subscribe. (I want it to be known this is my last resort idk wtf else to do to find who I want in my life)

I wouldn’t have never even gotten to this point if I was actually accepted. I have physical and emotional needs, and none of them are being met.

It’s like I’m not allowed to have my own feelings or preferences, and I’m not allowed to look for a relationship bc I’m just a “kink haver” and apparently I’m actually just a closeted homo 🤨 (this is coming from the people who are supposed to by allied, mods who allow actual prostitutes to post in their groups alongside the normal people)

Anyways it’s driving me crazy and I’m seeing the opposite of what I keep hearing being said. I just wish I could share all the contradictory bs so you know I’m not just making it up…

How am I gay if I like trans women? Why does me having a preference somehow make me a sexual deviant no good chaser, unless you see trans not as women?

Same people who act like this are the same ones who would be mad if I didn’t want a public relationship bc of my family… :(

It’s like Schrödingers gatekeeper…. They sit in the fence until it’s convenient to get rid of CIS men.

So to end this all up, if I’m a straight CIS man and I like MtF why the hell am I treated so poorly and unfairly?

It’s made me want to delete all my social media and I’m ngl im also kinda mad and confused mad at myself and mad the community for all of this.

I’m a human I deserve to be happy wtf 😕

I’m looking for a good binder and my budget is $15-$20… anyone got any suggestions or recommendations?

I’m sorry if yall get similar posts about dorms often, but i wanted to ask something a bit more specific i guess. So some context, I’m 17, going into senior year and looking to apply to colleges that are relatively non-conservative but none have any queer related dorms. Some have quads or doubles, all have gender separated floors I believe. I have non accepting parents so I’m planning to start socially and medically transitioning asap after my 18th bday which is in the summer before college. (I’ve been in denial since 10, just accepted myself as transmasc at 16 so i dont even have a “male name” or a lot of guy clothes or any other trans friends)

My question is, to anyone who lived in these kinds of dorms who also were just starting transitioning or not really passing, how did other people treat you? Like I’m scared that if the school listens to my requests and put me in a male floor, guys are going to be weird or hostile or uncomfortable because i will probably still look or act somewhat feminine in the beginning. I know it’s probably dependent on the people at different schools but i still want to hear what people have experienced with this…

Thank you in advance im very nervous

Hello, Im 19 going to Uni (UK) in september and thinking about going partially stealth ( theres already people that knew me pre-transition there so full stealth would be difficult but none of them are on the same course as me/ living on campus). Im 1 year on T and had top surgery, I have no idea if i pass to be honest, from strangers that dont know my age i usually am genderd correctly but I get alot of shocked looks once people know im 18+ (the amount of times ive had to get out my ID to prove it).

I know its hard to judge since you cant see what I look/sound like but how realistic is it to be stealth and is it worth it?

Anyone have any tips, Im living on campus (but have my own bathroom).

I’ve been binding for over 4 years, binding gets me flat enough to pass and not be questioned.

Never tried trans tape or learnt to use it properly really - can anyone tell me if it’s worth it, if it’s safe to wear/use as stealth, average amount of time it can be on for without reapplication and the best tape reccomendations/techniques for the flattest chest as I do go stealth a lot of places and need to be safe!

I know I can research these things but I just want reliable advice and intel. :)