My friend is joining a cult. Do I say something?
I don’t do things like this ever so forgive my writing.
I’m extremely torn right now, my best friend of 5 years has a problem where she changes herself for guys. Whether it be taking up new hobbies, opinions, or disliking things for that person. However, things took a drastic turn when she started liking a guy who is apart of a very strict religion/cult. I believe that those feelings are hard to control, but she’s 18, almost 19 and she is converting into this religion for him; keep in mind they’ve only known each other for a couple months and hung out twice in person. She often dives in head first to these things and hasn’t researched anything to do with the religion/cult. I am asking Reddit because this religion is so incredibly homophobic, sexiest, and built by racists, but she has no idea because she hasn’t researched anything. I am wholeheartedly against any and all discrimination, and this religion stands for all of that. I myself have people close to me that are part of the lgbt community, and I could never imagine myself joining an organization that actively supports the hate of them, simply for being themselves. Love is hard enough, why should gender matter? Even the thought that women aren’t allowed to dress a certain way, and they are not allowed to be pastors simply because they are women deeply upsets me.
Even though we have been friends for a long time, she has always prioritized men and victimized herself, but I have always put it aside. I feel horrible but I cannot keep being close with someone who goes against all of my morals and everything that truly matters to me. She’s doing this for a guy but she has gay friends and I don’t know how to bring up the fact that I don’t want to continue a friendship if she joins something so hateful, knowing that it is. I believe people can make choices for themselves, but I can not and will not excuse homophobia, sexism, and racism. I don’t know what to do or how to bring it up. Please help.