break up w bf or future?
context: me and my boyfriend met and fell in love in foreign country A around 2 years ago. we did long distance while he finished up school there and while i was in school in the US. he then moved back to the US and then moved to my state to be with me. he’s been living here for 7 months now.
I 21F am abt to graduate college, and i want to get a job in the finance/economics industry, Ive already have and had many internships etc. My 23M bf currently works retail and doesn’t have any career goals apart from moving back to country A. in the short term that’s what he wants to do but doesn’t have a solid plan. i don’t have a post grad job yet but am looking, and def would move for any good job that wants me. i also want to move back to country A but it’s hard to move there, and i’d rather start my career here and move to a big city here in the US.
we both kinda know a big decision is looming as by the end of this year i’m graduated, and im looking for jobs rn, and his lease in this state ends by the end of the year.
we have a very loving relationship and we are both each others first serious relationship. i don’t know if i want to end it because we have different goals, or if that is a selfish thing to do. i prioritize myself and my career and my future a lot, and definitely wouldn’t want to give anything up for a man, but i also don’t want to cut out someone i love just for a job. has anyone made a decision like this? is taking a break feasible or is it just a precursor to a break up?