u/Ok-Persona

recently ive been talking to more women on a certain app for both friendships and potential relationships. a girl messaged me and we instantly clicked, she complimented me and we both had very similar interest so I got her number and we’ve been texting for about a week going on two weeks.

our conversations were never dry and we both have a firm understanding of what we both want such as careers, children and where we want to retire etc …

my main problem is I am a lesbian I’ve known I’ve been a lesbian for about two years but I’ve always known I’ve liked women; however she on the other hand says she doesn’t know if she likes women.

it’s honestly a weird thing for me because typically I wouldn’t expect someone who doesn’t know if they like women to message and entertain other women. I don’t usually go for non lesbians as I want someone I can relate to and share my experiences with and non lesbians cannot have ( all ) the same experiences as lesbians.

she constantly flirts with me and I flirt back but then makes it clear she doesn’t know if she really likes girls. she sends me stuff, she calls me things but then always draws back to the statement she doesn’t know if she likes girls ?

as of yesterday we flirted a bit and she asked me if im more dominant or more submissive and I said I prefer to switch (?) she then asks me if I would use a strap and Im not against it so I say sure and I ask the same questions but then I ask if she would eat a girl out.

she says she doesn’t know and liking girls is new to her and about her boundaries which she never really specified to me. once she said this I told her ‘ so you don’t even know if you really like girls .’ she said ‘ no I think I do’ then added ‘ if I wasn’t I wouldn’t be attracted to you.’ i feel as if I don’t believe it because I know my attraction to women, and I’ve always known that . even when I thought I was bisexual I knew I had attraction to both men and women and she has attraction to men and has had sex with a man.

after this conversation we had a brief disagreement because I replied ‘ right ‘ underneath her comment about finding me attractive. I think she knows I don’t fully believe she’s attracted to women and it’s only in a sexual aspect. I really don’t know what to do.