My boyfriend (28M) never knows what he wants to eat and it’s making me (26F) anxious after 3 years together. How do couples handle meals when one partner is this indecisive?
Boyfriend never knows what he wants to eat. He asks me what to eat each time he's hungry. If I suggest something, he might not like it, and if he likes it, I cook it. If I cook it, he might eat it, but if he eats and doesn’t like it, he won’t finish his food and barely eats.
He waits till the last minute to want food and then he gets super hungry, then gets annoyed and short tempered and wants me to hurry with the meals I make. I then started asking him hours in advance what he feels like each time so I can plan ahead and avoid that, but he will say he doesn’t know.
What’s worse is because I can never tell what he will want to eat, chances are we don’t have ingredients for the meal he FINALLY feels like eating and have to go buy ingredients, but at times it’s too late and shops are closed. Then he rushes me again.
There was a time he didn’t like what I cooked and asked me to cook something else for him... Also, him taking long to decide means I might have to cook a meal after 8pm when I am exhausted.
Each day I get anxiety because I know at least two meals a day need to be cooked from scratch and I never know what he will want. Most meals take a minimum of 1 to 2 hours to make and be done with. I then have to clean pre and post meals. This means I spend nearly all day cooking or cleaning as in the morning I clean and tidy the house and im done by 10am or 11am depending on what's happening, by the time I'm done I have to make a meal so I can't rest, once the first meal is done its around 12pm or 1pm, then that gives me some time to do other things but I have to clean up from the recent meal and catch up on laundry, etc, by the time I've showered etc I have to make the next meal... I can't work.
I can’t meal prep because he only likes fresh meals and won’t eat meals after more than a day.