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I genuinely need an outside perspective because I’ve never experienced such a sudden change in someone’s behavior before.

I’ve been talking to this guy for a few weeks. From the beginning, he matched my energy, was consistently enthusiastic, initiated conversations, and made it clear he was excited about getting to know me. We finally met for our first date, and it went really well. At the end of the night, we shared a sweet peck, and he was the one who asked to see me again the following week.

The next day, I messaged him, and he even replied, “Yay, you’re still speaking to me,” which made it sound like he was worried I’d ghost him. Then, completely out of nowhere, he went silent.

After more than 24 hours with no response, I sent a simple, friendly check-in message to make sure he was okay. Normally, if he’s busy, he’ll at least open my messages and reply later. This time, he didn’t even open it. Meanwhile, I could see his WhatsApp “last seen” updating throughout the afternoon, so he was clearly on his phone but intentionally choosing not to even read my message.

What confuses me is how someone can go from acting genuinely excited, asking for another date, and worrying about being ghosted themselves, to completely disappearing overnight without saying a word. It honestly feels like someone flipped a switch.

I haven’t called him out yet, but I’m seriously considering it. Not because I expect a response or want to change his mind, but because I think this kind of behavior deserves to be called out. He’s a grown man in his 30s. If he’s no longer interested, I’d respect a simple, “I don’t think we’re a match.” Going completely silent instead feels immature and disrespectful.

Would I be wrong for sending one final message telling him that ghosting is cowardly and that adults should be capable of communicating honestly? Or is it better to say nothing and let him disappear?

Ghosting sucks. It honestly feels pretty childish. If you’re not interested anymore, just say it… basic communication isn’t that hard.

Went on a date recently and it honestly felt like it went really well. Conversation flowed easily, we were both laughing a lot, and the vibe felt good overall. Before we left, we even briefly mentioned meeting up again next week.

We messaged the next day like normal, but then suddenly they just went quiet. I sent a message in the early afternoon, they opened it, and then never replied after that. This is out of character because they’d always been responsive before, even if replies weren’t instant.

I’m not planning to double text or chase it, I’m just confused because nothing obvious seemed “off” during the date or right after. Has anyone had this happen where everything seemed to go well and then they suddenly disappear? Do people ever come back after something like this, or is it usually just a quiet loss of interest?

Just trying to get some perspective because the sudden switch has thrown me a bit.

I’m looking for some advice because I feel like I’m in a really awkward position.

My contract states that I have a three month notice period.

My manager has already handed in their notice and is due to leave in about a month. However, the owner of the business is holding them to the full three months. From my understanding, they will remain on payroll for the remaining two months and expected to come in when asked.

I am also planning to leave in August and have discussed this with my manager. The issue is that my manager keeps telling me not to worry about my three month notice period and that I won’t be expected to work it. I should wait until the middle of August to hand my notice in for the end of August.

What is making me uncomfortable is that they are also reluctant for the owner to know that I am planning to leave. They have said they don’t want to tell him and seem keen to keep it between us for now until middle of August.

Maybe I’m overthinking it, but I can’t help feeling that there may be a personal reason for this. If the owner knew that both members of the management team were leaving around the same time, I imagine that could influence how he deals with my manager’s own notice period. Because of that, I’m struggling to know whether the advice I’m being given is genuinely based on what the company would allow, or whether it is influenced by my manager’s own situation.

To be clear, I don’t think my manager is trying to be malicious, and we generally have a good relationship. I just feel that they may not be in a position to give impartial advice on this particular issue.

My concern is that if I rely on these assurances and hand in a two week notice as told, I could end up in a difficult position if the owner later insists that I work my full contractual notice period.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Would you trust a manager’s verbal reassurance in these circumstances, or would you want confirmation from the business owner or HR before making any decisions?

I work in retail and there’s a situation that’s getting out of hand, but I’m not sure how to escalate it without putting a target on my back.

My Store Manager is close friends with one of the Sales Assistants, and for months they’ve been letting them leave early and clock out from home on the app. So they’re getting paid for hours they’re not actually working.

It got worse when my Supervisor noticed and reported it up the chain. Instead of a proper investigation, the Manager told the Sales Assistant exactly who reported them, which has made things pretty hostile.

Now the Supervisor has screenshots and proof, and suddenly they’re also being allowed to leave early while staying clocked in. On my last shift, the Supervisor left 3.5 hours early and was still being paid.

So at this point I’m regularly being left alone to run the store during hours where two people are scheduled and being paid. It’s not just frustrating, it’s also a safety issue.

It feels like the Manager is committing time fraud, the Supervisor is now complicit, and the one attempt to report it already led to retaliation. That’s what’s making me hesitate.

I’m trying to figure out the least risky way to handle this. Is it safer to go to HR, an ethics or whistleblowing line, or straight to an Area Manager? How do you protect yourself when the Manager has already outed someone before? Should I submit the logs and times I’ve been tracking, or wait until I’m asked? And if I report anonymously, do companies actually investigate things like clock-in GPS or IP logs?

I’m getting pretty frustrated, but I don’t want to end up pushed out for speaking up. Any advice from people who’ve dealt with something similar would really help.

Our Store Manager has been allowing a Sales Assistant (a personal friend) to leave work early and clock out from home. My fellow Supervisor discovered this and reported it to the Store Manager.

Instead of addressing the fraud, the Store Manager "outed" the whistleblower to the Sales Assistant and then offered the Supervisor a deal to keep them quiet: The Supervisor is now also allowed to leave hours early and stay on the clock.

As I am also a Supervisor, I am now the only one actually working my full hours. On a recent shift, my peer Supervisor left 3.5 hours early, claiming them as worked hours, while I was left to run the entire store alone.

It is incredibly unfair and frustrating to be "running around" doing the work of two or three people while my peers are literally getting paid to be at home. Beyond the unfairness, it’s a massive safety risk and payroll fraud.

My Questions for HR:

1. Compliance: As a Supervisor, am I legally or professionally liable if I don't report this? I’m worried that if I stay silent, I’ll be seen as part of the "cover-up."

2. Proof: I have noticed the pattern, but I don’t have access to their GPS clock-out data. Is my witness testimony and a log of their physical departures enough for HR to pull the digital logs?

3. Retaliation: Since the Manager and the other Supervisor are now "partners in crime," I am worried they will team up to make my life miserable or find a reason to fire me if I speak up.

I feel like I’m the only person with any integrity left in this building, and the workload is becoming unbearable. What is my best move?