My "best friend" from hs got married and I didn't get invited.
So I have this friend from high school, but lately I’m not even sure if she still sees me as her friend anymore. Not because she didn’t invite me to her wedding lol — I think it’s deeper than that.
We’ve gone through so much together in life, from high school until now that we’re both adults working and living completely different lives. We still message each other sometimes, but it’s rare because we’re both busy doing life — especially me. And honestly, I feel guilty because I don’t know everything about her anymore.
But despite that, I still genuinely see her as one of my gems.
Everywhere I go, whenever conversations get deep, I always talk about her and how she became a huge part of my growth and who I am today. She gave me confidence when I didn’t even know what confidence felt like. Back then, I was an unknowingly broken and depressed teenager coming from a toxic and broken home, and I truly believe she was one of the people who saved me during that season of my life. That has always been my story about her.
And the guy she married? I was actually one of the reasons they got connected at the beginning of their relationship. That’s why seeing them still together until now, finally getting married, genuinely made me so happy.
But when she got married recently and I wasn’t invited, I won’t lie — it hurt.
Not because I’m angry, but maybe because in my heart, I always imagined that when that moment finally came for them, I’d still somehow be there. Even if we barely talked or saw each other anymore, I thought I’d still have a place in their lives the same way they still had one in mine.
Maybe for her, our story became something different over time. Maybe there are things I don’t know anymore.
But for me, she’s still my best friend from high school.
I hope she’s proud of me somehow, because I will always give her credit for becoming part of the reason why I survived, grew, and became the person I am today. And even if I’m no longer that person for her, she will always be that person for me.
And if I ever get married someday, I know for sure I’d want her there.
Is this valid?