u/Ok-Theory-1069

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Thank you.

Hello. Im 48M who recently started seeing someone I met online. We only spent time together a handful of times, but in person it felt easy, affectionate, intimate,and mutual. I liked her pretty quickly.

At some point, I got the sense she was pulling back. Instead of backing off and giving it room, I got anxious and tried to explain myself and stay connected, which probably came off as pressure. I even drank one night and sent her a text telling her how much I liked her. It was true but I wish I hadn’t sent it. After some silence, which I understood, because she was busy, I finally sent one more text just to let her know I was here if she wanted to talk and that I’d love to see her. I tried to make it as low
pressure as possible. She replied a couple days later that she is busy and she liked spending time with me but she’s worried that I like her too much.

I sent her a message owning that I got scared and pushed harder than I should have, and now I’m trying to figure out whether I killed it by over explaining or going too fast.

Does this sound like a situation where the right move is just to leave it alone completely?

If someone pulls back and you respond by pushing for clarity/connection, is there any reasonable recovery from that later, or is that usually the point where you’ve made the other person feel too pressured to come back? It’s just difficult to find a middle ground because all avenues feed into liking her too much. I do value her and really like her company but I’m just not sure what to do…I don’t want to play any blame games or put in any more pressure on the situation, but I wasn’t really wanting to say goodbye to her. Thanks.