My boss is my LO, but I’m honestly not really sure what this is anymore.
We’ve known each other for quite some time already. I’ve been working for his company for 5 years, and we became really close around 2–3 years ago. At first, he would randomly message me, but it was always work-related. Eventually, the conversations turned into banter, and I started getting comfortable with him. He became comfortable with me too, to the point where we would talk from the moment we woke up until we fell asleep.
The complicated part is that I have a significant other, and he is married. Because of that, I tried to brush things off and convince myself that maybe he’s just naturally caring and like this with people he’s close to.
But something shifted once we got really close.
First, the way he cares for me feels different. At first, I thought maybe he was just being a good boss, but it started to feel more personal and special when it came to me. He always makes sure I’m okay and hates seeing me cry. Sometimes, he would even give me staycations in expensive hotels, pay for therapy, or bring me to nice places just so I could feel better.
Second, whenever I ask for something, he almost always gives it to me.
Third, whenever we have misunderstandings, he finds ways to make up for it. Sometimes he lets me order whatever food I want, and other times he secretly asks someone in the office to order food he knows I like. That’s usually his way of saying sorry.
He also does things for me that he doesn’t really have to do, and honestly, that’s what confuses me the most. I never forced any of it. Sometimes, I even feel like I’m acting like his wife whenever his actual wife isn’t around.
What makes everything harder is that he keeps telling me that he truly loves his wife and that he’s happily married, yet he continues doing things that feel emotionally intimate — things I feel should only be done within a relationship or marriage. It’s confusing.
Now, I don’t know if they’re having problems because recently he started avoiding me. And honestly, I miss him. I miss talking to him.
I really don’t know what to feel anymore, and I need help understanding this situation.