Has anyone had EDRP and switched jobs to a non-EDRP position? I know they will prorate your time in your original EDRP position. I am curious how they calculate the prorated amount. Do they calculate by the day, week, month?
My husband has cancer. We both care for his special needs sister, who lives with us. Now I am the caregiver to both. I am the sole provider. I am tired. Exhausted, really - in so many ways. I have a stressful job. Two jobs. I have to do so much to keep it together and keep everything on track. It’s constant and it doesn’t stop. I don’t get a break.
People ask how I am, but they don’t want a true answer. They tell me to do self care and “take something off my plate”. People don’t like when I ask them what exactly it is they think I should ignore. Which doctor’s appts do I cancel or skip? Which procedures, treatments, or surgeries do I ignore? Do I stop going to work and stop having health insurance and paying bills? Do I stop cutting grass or housework - you can only do that for a while and I promise when you get back to it, it will only be that much worse. Those things don’t go away. Laundry fairies still have not arrived nor do I wake up and find grocery shopping completed and a freshly stocked house. I joke that the only thing I have control over is what I eat and how much I sleep - and sometimes I’m not so sure about that.
I don’t play the game and give the small smile and say I’m fine. People don’t know what to do with me then.
Vent of the day - my time away from work is for other people’s health issues. Oh, and I work in healthcare, so isn’t that fun? I never escape it. Today was another surgery day. Husband is in a bad mood. My house is a wreck. We ate fast food because it was the easiest option for my tired self. I cringe at the cost. Husband wants to nap on the couch - the only time I have at home. Now I’m captive and can’t make noise. Guess there goes any catching up and productivity this evening. No busting out the vacuum cleaner or turning the tv up to an audible volume. Guess I’ll try to find something else to do that’s quiet before I go to bed and get up at 4 am to do this again tomorrow.