u/OkPossibility7115

I need 4 fillings done in total and back in May I went to an appointment to try get them done. I managed to go in, sit in the chair and all that and the second my dentist was like okay we are going to give you an injection now I lost all control. All the tears I had building up that day whilst commuting there, walking from the station there and sat in the waiting room all came out at once. My dentist applied for me to get nhs iv sedation but I was rejected.

I have another appointment later this month and i just want to cancel so bad. And before anyone says "oh you need to get your anxiety under control" believe me I know i do (i have 6 missing teeth for a reason) but I dont know how. My bf takes propranolol and said I should go to the GP to get a prescription but I dont have an official diagnosis and that would take probably months knowing the nhs. And would a 10mg pill even do enough?

For 10 days before the appointment me and my bf are going to be very busy as his family is on holiday so we are in charge of taking care of the house and the dog + I have my part time job. They come back the day before my appointment so I literally have no time to mentally prepare for it.

Would they except anxiety as a legitimate reason to push back an appointment?

If I go to the appointment and I end up uncontrollably crying again could they appeal for sedation?

Im just so lost on what do to, to the point i am considering spending hundreds of pounds going private for iv sedation.

Hi so, I (19F) have been with my bf (19M) for 6 months now and I live with his family. Mum (51), dad (54) and sister (16)

For 3 years now they've had a dog who is now 10. They got him from a shelter and he has separation anxiety presumably after his previous owner left him there and his favourite person is my bfs mum. When she is not there he will cry, howl, and bark and never be able to fully relax, he does have a thundershirt that we can put on him to keep him quiet but he doesnt like to wear it so we only tend to use it when he needs to settle down eg. Night time or when bfs mum is in a work meeting.

Now my partners family loves the country Greece and are having another trip there in July (last day of term) however my bf is not going. He has been left behind with the purpose of "he can look after the dog" and ofc since I live there now its my responsibility as well. And ofc I absolutely love the dog but ive said many times in my life I would never want to own one due to the responsibility it takes but this is unavoidable.

This isn't really the first time this has happened either as on Easter Sunday they planned to leave me here on my own with the dog which my bf said was unfair (at the time I didnt even know what he got fed so I was i expected to take care of him for the 7 hours they were gone?) and they decided to take him with them.

I dont know it just feels as if we are being free dog sitters for a dog that has separation anxiety and a way for his family to save money by not taking my bf with them on a family holiday.

WIBTA if I called his parents out on this behaviour?

Edit: I dont pay rent but that is there choice, I have offered to pay it. I do pay for my own food, transport, cook my own meals and I do feed/walk the dog along with other chores in the house

Ive had dental anxiety my whole life and honestly it ruined a part of my childhood, I have ARFID and because of that my diet is limited and a lot of the foods I like are bad for oral health and as youd expect I got cavities as a kid but was too scared to ever get them filled. When I was 15 I developed a dental abscess that was so severe I had to get surgery to fix it under general. Whilst I was under they removed 6 of my teeth and did 6 fillings and it took them 2 hours (including dealing with the abscess). When I was 16 I became severely depressed and didnt brush at all developing 2 cavities. Somehow I was able to get them filled perfectly fine (without numbing because needles in a dentist environment is terrifying to me but ivs are okay ish) and hadn't been to the dentist in almost 3 years.

Fast forward to today, I have an overbite and want to get it fixed but need to get my teeth fixed for the orthodontist first. I went to the dentist and they said I need 1 tooth pulled (I could go private and get a root canal instead) and 4 fillings, I chose to get the tooth pulled because it would be a fraction of the cost than going private and we booked 3 appointments for the fillings due to my anxiety so they would be short appointments. They were the 7th, 12th and 19th of May. I cancelled the one on the 7th due to anxiety but went to the one on the 12th and they didnt get anything done on me, they mentioned giving me an injection and I cried like a baby so much that they couldn't continue. My dentist then said he was gonna fill in a form to get my fillings done under iv sedation.

I got a call from my dentist a week ago so on the 20th saying the nhs had rejected the form and that id either have to go private which according to my dentist would cost between 700 to 800 or try again which for those who dont know costs 75. I opted to try get it done again and its all I can think about, im worried the same thing is going to happen. I do have 800 but its for my savings, yk the money that is used to hopefully put a deposit on a house or get a car. I should also add I work 12 hrs part time at a retail job so I make around 630 a month and I have to pay around 250 in expenses (living with partners family, majority of money is for train tickets) and im just so lost on what to do and would appreciate any advice

Thanks for taking the time to read all of this